Need Help

[bengali548]

okay well i've been in a really iffy mood for the past while and i think this forum would be able 2 help me out seeing as how there seem 2 be alot of educated ppl here lol basically my question is.. should i break up with my girlfriend by break up i mean NEVER go back 2 her again here are some of her cons -she always hangs out with her ex whom she said she "loves" because she was her first love and he still has a piece of her heart.. thing is her ex is dealing with problems (life problems) and considers her his best friend - she seems to be ignorant of how i feel about the relationship - she's always busy and seems 2 have no time - very emotional and easily angered - is well experienced in sex (im 17 i havent gone ALL the way cuz i refused (no i'm not gay ) but shes had sex countless amounts of time she also had it with her ex) - gets mad at me if i do something she doesnt like but when she does the exact same thing yells at me saying i'm out of line. - ignores important questions now her pros................ - shes extremely nice and caring a nurturer in a way - she very apologetic.... after time - fun to just be around - clingy (i like that) - has the intent of a serious relationship but not now within the future reasons why i am reluctant to break up with her.... - SHE WORKS WITH ME :'(:'( - shes been in extremely shitty relationships and she makes it seem like her life is falling apart - she says shes deperately searching for "the one" so someone please help me out i think the main reason i cant break up with her is cuz she works with me and it'd be awkward and would give a bad impression on my other co-workers but ya need some guidance oh btw i have the feeling that if i wait i can learn 2 accept her, that and my last relationship was worse so i'm kinda scared that i'm burdened with either bad luck or i'm just being really really picky

[KuRoSaKi]

Dump her bro she has all the signs of someone who is not being faithful, and her pro's are easily cover ups I know this from experience time and time again and I am rarely wrong. Learning to accept equals someone else being you being the appetizer and someone else being the main dish bro.

[bengali548]

i thought that but see the thing is if she isn't being faithful SHE'D BE A MORON she's been in abusive relationships her whole life and her so called "love" cheated on her twice called her every derogatory female word rejected her and said it would never work out when she wanted him back (this was at the point when we actually did break up but i went back 2 her) so it doesn't add up.. i'm starting 2 actually think that she likes fighting or she creates problems becuase her whole life rotates around it so she can't be in peace.. she also has a horrible family life which might be the cause oh adn 2 add see when we went back together she seemed sort of forced becuase she isn't used 2 not having a relationship so she wanted that feeling of being alone(she asked her ex out as a withdrawl in a way) reading my messages over i think i'm in deeper than i thought.. i feel like i'm being played in a way but i don't want 2 accept the truth but something in me is telling me 2 stick thru.. but it might be my instincts.. or it might be that im forcing myself 2 be with her cuz i'd rather not be alone.. dunno what it is tho

[Mes Tarrant]

It's hard to tell someone what to do in some situations... but not in this one. Clearly you need to break up with her. For one thing, I don't for a second understand how you could value yourself little enough to be with someone who says that her ex "has a piece of her heart." What the hell.

[KuRoSaKi]

Apparently she is someone who continues to get herself into abusive and stupid relationships so she has already proved to be a moron. To ask your ex back out that is just stupid you already know he can't be trusted yet you put yourself in the same positions again. You are being palyed stop being stupid and just do the right thing.

[bengali548]

yaa its starting to get more evident now that i ventilated on theese forums a bit but lol i need to get enough courage to break up with her i'd feel bad if she started crying tho but i think i can break up with her in a mutual way.. i'll give her a week maybe 2 see if she can put her act together. if so than i'll stick around for a bit longer if not than i guess i have 2