Need Help

[bengali548]

okay well i've been in a really iffy mood for the past while and i think this forum would be able 2 help me out seeing as how there seem 2 be alot of educated ppl here lol basically my question is.. should i break up with my girlfriend by break up i mean NEVER go back 2 her again here are some of her cons -she always hangs out with her ex whom she said she "loves" because she was her first love and he still has a piece of her heart.. thing is her ex is dealing with problems (life problems) and considers her his best friend - she seems to be ignorant of how i feel about the relationship - she's always busy and seems 2 have no time - very emotional and easily angered - is well experienced in sex (im 17 i havent gone ALL the way cuz i refused (no i'm not gay ) but shes had sex countless amounts of time she also had it with her ex) - gets mad at me if i do something she doesnt like but when she does the exact same thing yells at me saying i'm out of line. - ignores important questions now her pros................ - shes extremely nice and caring a nurturer in a way - she very apologetic.... after time - fun to just be around - clingy (i like that) - has the intent of a serious relationship but not now within the future reasons why i am reluctant to break up with her.... - SHE WORKS WITH ME :'(:'( - shes been in extremely shitty relationships and she makes it seem like her life is falling apart - she says shes deperately searching for "the one" so someone please help me out i think the main reason i cant break up with her is cuz she works with me and it'd be awkward and would give a bad impression on my other co-workers but ya need some guidance oh btw i have the feeling that if i wait i can learn 2 accept her, that and my last relationship was worse so i'm kinda scared that i'm burdened with either bad luck or i'm just being really really picky

[KuRoSaKi]

Dump her bro she has all the signs of someone who is not being faithful, and her pro's are easily cover ups I know this from experience time and time again and I am rarely wrong. Learning to accept equals someone else being you being the appetizer and someone else being the main dish bro.

[bengali548]

i thought that but see the thing is if she isn't being faithful SHE'D BE A MORON she's been in abusive relationships her whole life and her so called "love" cheated on her twice called her every derogatory female word rejected her and said it would never work out when she wanted him back (this was at the point when we actually did break up but i went back 2 her) so it doesn't add up.. i'm starting 2 actually think that she likes fighting or she creates problems becuase her whole life rotates around it so she can't be in peace.. she also has a horrible family life which might be the cause oh adn 2 add see when we went back together she seemed sort of forced becuase she isn't used 2 not having a relationship so she wanted that feeling of being alone(she asked her ex out as a withdrawl in a way) reading my messages over i think i'm in deeper than i thought.. i feel like i'm being played in a way but i don't want 2 accept the truth but something in me is telling me 2 stick thru.. but it might be my instincts.. or it might be that im forcing myself 2 be with her cuz i'd rather not be alone.. dunno what it is tho

[Mes Tarrant]

It's hard to tell someone what to do in some situations... but not in this one. Clearly you need to break up with her. For one thing, I don't for a second understand how you could value yourself little enough to be with someone who says that her ex "has a piece of her heart." What the hell.

[KuRoSaKi]

Apparently she is someone who continues to get herself into abusive and stupid relationships so she has already proved to be a moron. To ask your ex back out that is just stupid you already know he can't be trusted yet you put yourself in the same positions again. You are being palyed stop being stupid and just do the right thing.

[bengali548]

yaa its starting to get more evident now that i ventilated on theese forums a bit but lol i need to get enough courage to break up with her i'd feel bad if she started crying tho but i think i can break up with her in a mutual way.. i'll give her a week maybe 2 see if she can put her act together. if so than i'll stick around for a bit longer if not than i guess i have 2

[bengali548]

@ Mes Tarrant ya.. i felt pretty low but i sucked it in thinking i could over shadow the guy in time and it was her first "love" and she said u can never lose your felings for ur first love... i said bullshit and told her she was 17 and couldn't comprehend love (in a nice way )

[dodobird]

Stay with her, sounds like a nice girl. Don't be obsessive and jealous that she likes to hang out with her friends ( ex boy freind or otherwise ). If you got problems with your relationship, you should try to fix them, but don't throw a way a girl-friend simply because there are some problem. And she is right, many people never lose their feelings to their first love, nor they should. She will always love him, and that is fine, and she has every right to hang out with him as a friend, while being in a relationship with someone else. and again, don't be jealous, or you will end up with some boring girl-friend that don't care about anything in the world except for you, and after words when you marry her and have kids, she will be bored with you too, and will not care about anything in the world except her kids.

[bengali548]

i try not to be obsessive but she seems to see her ex more than she sees me. and she doesnt want to even get intimate becuase she says she doesnt want to get into a big relationship so basically i have a gf that i rarely am with alone and if are alone we just hang out.. this might sound bad, but a relationship needs to have some sort of intimacy or sexual flare.. i see her tho often but were always in the public eye. and yes i believe fights and arguments are beneficial in a relationship.. but when both people are willing 2 apologize.. when she's mad she snaps and just rants of how wrong i am so i apologize and i apologize some more but that upsets her if i keep apologizing cuz it bothers her so i leave her alone.. fine that works... WHEN I'M MAD she says again how i shouldnt be mad than says how we should take a break.. than when she says that i get freaked and apologize again cuz i feel like i did something wrong. even if she did something that made me mad she'd yell and if i did THE EXACT same thing she'd get mad again at me. but i still have the feeling that the kinks can be worked out and it could be something good and as hard as it may seem to believe shes 1000x better than my ex who actually did cheat on me and was a gold-digger.

[Man of Steel]

Doesn't sound to me like you've got a girlfriend to break up with. Of course, that's just my take on it... Also, just a friendly superheroic reminder, proper spelling and grammar are much easier for us to read, and would likely increase the number of responses you might get. In short, minus all the verbosity, LRN2SPELL+GRAMMAR!

[KuRoSaKi]

Doesn't sound to me like you've got a girlfriend to break up with. Of course, that's just my take on it... Also, just a friendly superheroic reminder, proper spelling and grammar are much easier for us to read, and would likely increase the number of responses you might get. In short, minus all the verbosity, LRN2SPELL+GRAMMAR!

[bengali548]

so i did it... and i regret it now... but i guess i gotta untuck my balls and face the music

[KuRoSaKi]

How can you regret it? was she actually being faithful? Or is she just trying to make you feel bad and trick you again? Or was she being seirous. You were pretty vague.

[bengali548]

lmfao sorry disregard my last comment ahahaha that was me "sulking" its been a while since i posted here but i must say I LOVE LIFE ALOT MORE ahahahahahahahahahah but yes the good thing that came out of this relationship was that i realized i can do SOO much better but thx guys 4 ur advice

[Man of Steel]

lmfao sorry disregard my last comment ahahaha that was me "sulking" its been a while since i posted here but i must say I LOVE LIFE ALOT MORE ahahahahahahahahahah but yes the good thing that came out of this relationship was that i realized i can do SOO much better but thx guys 4 ur advice Too bad you didn't heed mine... Seriously, though, glad to hear it worked out well in the end.