Thread: Tell me how to handle rude people.

Originally Posted by LdMichael

i dont think anyone has ever been rude to me, and me not completly ruin their day by either making them cry from words

Come with me places?

lol i would love to if i was in russia

I saw your pic and you look very good. how are people so rude to you?

"Instead of being given the gift of patience, ask for an opportunity to be patient, instead of asking for a million dollars, ask for an opportunity to be shown to you so that you may acquire great wealth, instead of asking for the gift of kindness...ask for an opportunity to be kind..." - Jeff

My thoughts on the matter is you say you don't want to be sensitive and you are presented with an opportunity to puff out your chest and stand firm with boldness, yet you run out in tears? I know it's not easy, believe me...but the help you are seeking here has been presented to you in the form of an opportunity to better yourself. Everything's fine when all is good but our true character shows in the face of adversity. Times of life-altering growth that present themselves to us are what I like to call "defining moments."

"I looked to the heavens and asked God to make me patient, the next day I drove up to work and there were 100 people in front of me to clock in!...maybe I should have been more careful of what I asked for!"

You are sensitive, alot of people are...that's not your fault, according to psychology's stand on the four temperaments you are what modern day psychologists would consider a "yellow" to be. It's not your fault for being sensitive, that's your personality, but know that you can bawl up a fist or two when the time comes.

TIP!!! I study NLP (Nero-Linguistic Programming) off and on, and there's actually a technique to make yourself go from an attitude of wimpy to an attitude of a brave, dynamic, courageous leader that gives off an energy that says "I'm a cool person but don't fuck with me"...and a majority of the time people adhere to that. Here's the technique...first of all straighten your back, (STRAIGHTEN IT!! :p) raise your chin a bit, breathe deeper and slower than normal, and if you'd like, put your arms on your waist. That will instantly change your attitude because of the mind body connetion associated with that technique.

Here's to a lifetime of "defining moments" in which you'll speak your mind, be assertive, bold, take chances, take risks, and live with no regrets...cheers.

Mes, it looks like you like the idea of having a boyfriend who will handle the bastards for you. A lot of women are very attracted to ultra-domineering men for that very reason. If you end up getting a guy you think fits that role well, make sure it's not somebody who is going to turn it against you. Men who give off the vibe of being somebody who will keep you safe might be giving off that vibe because of how you know he will handle people, but those people could include you. That is what I think mostly explains spousal abuse occurring with relentless codependence. You should find somebody who will be effectively protective but who is good until he has no choice but not to be.

I thought of another way to handle rude people, especially the really stupid ones. When they act like that, roll your eyes to the back of your head and start talking with an Exorcist voice and say, "The oracle snake spririts say they do not like it when you blaspheme the demon voodoo goddess of the Third Labyrinth!" Then do a laughing witch howl to the top of your lungs. That should shut them up. Just be ready to convince the Russian police and mental health professionals you were joking.