Sometimes I have dreams where I’m actually good at dream control also, like flying, Jedi mind tricks and light sabers, in those dreams it’s like I always had that control. But you said welling it to happen? Not sure but do you mean that sometimes a thought just comes across you mind in a non-lucid dream and it happens? I don’t get that as much, but sometimes that helps if you have a nightmare or whatever. The only times when I gotten killed in a dream was when I was distracted by something else, like crane games. Then maybe my mind didn’t have the control over it because it just to get that teddy bear. Also I had non-lucid dreams where my control was better in my lucid dreams, even thought I find flying a LOT easier that changing scenes or teleporting, which I never done in a non-lucid dream.