I actually have a similar problem. I DO remember to do RCs in my dreams, except they always work the way they do irl. I can see my nose when I close one eye, my hands have 5 clear fingers, I cant put one finger through the palm of my other hand, I cant stretch a finger.. etc etc.

So far Ive had 3 DILDs since trying to learn how and all of them its just a fluke that I realize Im dreaming because something is "not right" in the dream world - like talking to my grandmother who happens to be dead irl. But obviously I cant conjure her up irl to practice that RC lol.