Ive been trying to attain lucidity for ages now. I do constant reality checks and everything, But I relies the only thing what REALLY sucks is.. the fact that. Every time I dream that I know im dreaming as in, I don't just remember it in the morning I watch it while I am dreaming. Then wake up and remember this I don't know if this is normal but seeing that I can see whats happening in my dream . Why cant i control it , Its basically like my brain is turned off and im watching a DVD movie or something, I cant do anything in my dream just watch, Cant even basically think to myself consciously... So, im asking a 2 questions here.

1. Does anybody have the same issue?
2. Reality checks basically mean that you can watch your dream, then it'll make you lucid? because your activating something in your brain??