non-lucid

Brief dream last night, but so repetitive!
I'm in a unknown house, I'm watching at the see. I'm alone, and everything is perfect. A stunning view, blue Sea, Sun. Someone is training a grampus, she is so good at exercises, an every time she succeed, the man caresses her, and she acts like my dog did when I trained her (my dog died two years ago).
She is so happy to make happy his owner.
Then two guys emerge from the Sea and the grampus gets nervous and swims towards the guys. They don't see the grampus coming and I start to be scared as I see the trainer panicking as he can't stop her. The guys dive again and I see the grampus coming in the same point where the guys dived.
The dream seems to stop, but then I'm again looking at the sea from the window and I see again the trainer training the pet, and the sequence starts again and again.

Like usual there is a thirdy part looking at the girl who looks out the window. Of course the thirdy part it's me, but I feel powerless in orden to stop the recurring sequences. It's boring to see the same sequences a lot of times. I feel the fears of the girl looking at the scenes, but I can't do anything to change the course of the sequence, neither I can avoid the sequence to repeat several times!

My boyfriend and I are going to an ironmongery, as we have some problems with some pipes which don't fit each others. We are laughing loud at some stupid things, then we come in this shop... and there are some people and I recognise a guy I met online in a social network. We talk each other since last Summer, I like him, but we never met for real.
He is with other people. I assume they are his family. There is a blonde blue-eyed girl close to him and I assume she is his gf (whereas I know his girlfriend is brunette). I'm thinking that he is going to recognise me too, but he looks quickly at me and NOTHING!
He is talking animatedly with another guy, similar to him, I think he is his brother. I cannot help but staring at him, hoping he recognises me sooner or later, but nothing... it is frustrating, as I was hoping he liked me.
Then the owner of the shop comes directly to me and asks what I need. The blonde girl complains that he is not respecting the order of arrival of his customers, as her family were already in the shop when we came in.
So I told the owner of the shop that it is true, but he is Spanish and he tells us who he does what he wants in his Spanish shop and, as we are in Spain, he prefers latin customers.
So the girl tries to get the attention of this guy, to solve the situation, and I really hope he will look at me this time, but he keeps to talk excitedly with his brother and the owner starts to flirt with me.
My boyfriend gets mad at me, but I keep to look at that guy.
His gf though intercepts my look and she is about to say something about it. I feel she is going to say it in front of my bf, so I push my bf out of the shop and I feel so sad, as I lost the chance to get to know the guy....

I wasn't lucid at all in this dream, but I need to say that, as usual, I AM behind the dream.
I mean that I often am as a thirdy part, watching at my dreams as I am watching a movie.
Also I really feel what 'the ME' in the dream feels, I share all her emotions, I support her and comment her moves, BUT I can't help her directly, neither change the course of the dreams.
For example, I was deeply supporting her and telling her to do something to get the attention of that guy. But she (ME) is unable to hear me or feel what I feel!
Also, like usual, I (the thirdy part) see incongruities and inconsistencies in the dreams. For example there were a lot of problems with those pipes which didn't fit each others. No one in the dreams knew why the pipes didn't fit. BUT the problems was really stupid to solve as a pipe was square and the other one was rounded!
I could clearly see it and I laughed at that inconsistence, but no one in the dreams were aware, not ME!

SO, someone could tell me please why I can't be lucid, whereas I'm AWARE that there is a part of me who watch at my dreams as it was a movie?