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    does violent behavior in lucid dreams equal a dangerous indevidual in the waking life?

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    americapeterson
    , 12-12-2010 at 08:34 AM (704 Views)
    So, I joined this forum so I could get some feedback on a very unusual dream. I often dream lucidly and on some occasions (when I do dream lucidly) I begin to act out violent things I would never do. I try to force myself intimately on any woman I see. They do not try to fight me off or object in anyway, however their bodys become stiff and unresponsive and it becomes difficult. As I am trying to force myself on them I realize I have no penis so I cant really engage in forced intercourse. But in any case I usually continue even though I cannot manage to dream up a penis for myself. In these dreams I do want to act violently but I realize I am dreaming and not really hurting anyone.
    In my waking life I am a very outgoing agreeable and often passive lesbian. I do not fight or maliciously try and hurt people and I have never sexually assaulted another living thing though I have been myself( before I'd ever had the dreams). My guilt has always kept me from making harmfull and careless disissions, and when I was young these dreams made me feel horrible. But I have come appreciate them and accept that I have them. I guess I would like to hear what others think of this since I will never tell my friends.

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    1. MadamAurantia's Avatar
      Don't feel too bad. I don't think any meanings are to be taken literally. When I lucid, nine times out of ten I wind up immediately looking for dream sex. I'm a chick and bi, for clarification. I've accosted youngish boys and my own little sister, neither of which is anything I want to do for real. And it's always "It's okay, you know. It's only a dream. You're not real, so why fight me?" And I wake up kind of disgusted.

      Now non-sexual violence is something different for me. It happens, but rarely and usually against someone I've experienced badly: an abusive ex, a Disney hero who freaked me out (don't ask ), Freddy Kreuger...

      Though you say you were assaulted before the dreams began. Could this have an influence on it? Perhaps your mind trying to work it out?
    2. americapeterson's Avatar
      Thank you for responding, I appreciate you speaking with me candidly about this. I've been trying to find examples of dreams like mine but it seemed either other women didnt have them or no one talks about them. Also I meant to say I had experienced these dreams before the assault. However my mother was raped as a child and would go ito great detail about her experiances when I was as young as 4 or 5. I was aware of it at least as long as ive had the dreams.
    3. J.D.'s Avatar
      Don't worry, things you do in a lucid dream have absolutely no bearing on what you're like in real life. People (myself included) regularly do things in our dreams which would be considered horrendous by anyone's waking standards, but you can't judge dreams that way.

      Remember, a lucid dream is a consequence-free environment, and nothing you do will ever hurt anyone else in any shape or form. Plus, no-one else ever usually knows about it. It's precisely these reasons why people do things that they would never try (or even want to try) in waking life- just because they can. Sure, some people abide by a strict moral code in their dreams, but where's the fun in that? Lucid dreams allow you to be a completely unrestrained hedonist in a safe environment. The vast majority of people, if given access to such an environment, would do the same. And unless the lucid dreamer has some very serious mental health problems, there's no chance they would start behaving in real life how they do in dreams.