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      Is Control a Good Thing?

      A good friend made a suggestion to me before Christmas. He suggested that maybe as part of my lucid dreaming experience, I should not try to exercise too much control in my dreams. He suggested keeping it to a minimum and just go with the flow and see how the adventure unfolds. See what you can learn from them.

      I’ve been setting aside a number of my lucid dreams to do just that and am somewhat amazed by the results.

      Take my latest dream for example The Healing Waters
      . If I had chosen to exercise control and change this dream, I would have missed out on a truly wonderful experience. One I might add that my soul desperately needed.

      So what to all of you think? I would like to hear some opinions from everyone. That includes noobies as well as all the old timers.
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      I agree with you on that seeker Too much control can alter vital things in regards to what you really need to get from your dreams. I try to keep mine to a minimal also just so that I can get that extra whatever from my dreams. I guess that goes with the waking world also if you knew exactly what was in store for you around the corner then how could you learn, or gain a significant amount of wisdom from any event that unfolds. So I say its best to go with the flow!

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      I too am not a fan of practising out control in a dream. Of course it at first depends what you believe of course..

      Do you believe in the dreamworld as the astral plane? An actual level of existance? A second reality? Another plane?
      Or do you see it as your own mind, nothign more, is it all up your head? Can you do anything you want? Are there no more laws?

      The second one is not a very respectful attitude I think but of course not everybody believes the same and that should be respected aswell, I gues you cant respect something you do not believe in, or can you? But here is what I believe:

      The dreamworld is not just up your head, it is that actual level of existance we call the astral plane. And this world, is equal to our own world. As are all planes. And it should be equally respected as the pshysical plane too. If you would not go ona killing spree in the pshysical then you should not in the astral, if you dont have sex with anybody you like i the pshysical you dont in the astral..

      Now this is of course the moral part, which is the first halve of it all..there are certain things that are wrong, and if you believe the astral is real, then you dont do them.

      Second comes in the more important thing, balance, the greater balance. The astral is a place stil untouched by the inbalance of human forces, of souls. It runs on a balance of dark and light as does everything. For every dark demon there is a light spirit to make up for it. They cannot exist without eachother, but thats besides the point..when we start practicing out control out there over in the astral..we start disturbting this balance..
      would you like it if your own world would be manipulated? Woud you like it an alien came and controled your mind or changed your house into a flame of fire or ran over you with a truck or shot you for hsi own amusement? Would you like if your hometown suddenly turned into a battle field just because the alien wishes to live out his fantasies? I dont think so..

      Now you might say oh well, its just a little..well what if hunderd thousands would trash one empty can on the streets everyday..thats a whole lotta cans on the street if you ask me. What if all those people shot one animal everyday..what if..certainly that disturbs the balance..

      All planes, including the astral live on this balance..and if you go and disturb it your not doing somethign right..

      Now, another reason..acting natural brings the most good things to you..acting natural brings you the best things..makes you find the good things..the astral hides the good things from persons that upset the balance..but if you just naturally go and take a walk who knows what you might find..or who you might meet..if you just take it natural, act natural then much better and magnificent things will come to you...its the only way to interact with the astral, else it will stuck you in your little bubble..

      So it means control must be sacrificed to make any kind of progress, meet any kinds of spirits..see the real thing. Not everybody believes what Im saying I know that..but thats the way I see it..and it brought me more then any kind of control could ever bring me. And I wouldnt trade that for the world..

      The onyl kind of control that is ok is personal control, such as flying or chi manipulation..certain sorts of magic..as long as it comes from yourself and doesnt upset that balance...so Im voting little control..but I tend to no control, I avoid it.
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      uh...whats sliced bread?!
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      An important thing to remember is this: You must be experienced enough to know the difference between when you are walking the Dreaming and when you are simply in a dream of your own making. And there is a difference. The Dreaming is a world in and of itself. A dream is simply that—a dream. Perhaps designed to show you something, or just to entertain you as you sleep. Who knows?

      Control is ok, but not essential to lucid dreaming. As I just mentioned, the Dreaming is another world, akin to our own but vastly different. Most of my personal experiences have dealt with the manipulation of dreamworld energies. I am not afraid to use my power there, but I try not to go overboard. Certain things must be respected. The nature of the Dreaming is one of these things. Going into the Dreaming with the intention of tyranny is no different then, say, an alien species with knowledge and power well beyond our own landing on our planet and taking over. It sounds silly, I know, but it’s the closest analogy I can come up with after a long night at work.

      For the most part, I appear wherever I am going to appear and I simply walk the Dreaming/Astral (or fly, as the case may be) and learn whatever I can learn, see whatever I can see for whatever duration of time that I’m there. When necessary, I won’t hesitate to use my power as a dreamer to defend myself or another. I have morphed objects into other objects (for example, I once turned a hotdog into a cookie--I hate hotdogs). I have met countless beings; good, evil, and neutral and not once have I tried to demonstrate any sort of control over them. As far as I’m concerned, they are beings just like me and I have no right to use my power like that. To be honest, I doubt it’s possible anyway unless they are extremely weak-spirited or a dream construct, which are supposedly creations of your own mind (though given my experiences, I question that).

      I have to slightly disagree with Lucius. (Sorry, sweetie! ) From what I’ve seen, I do believe that the astral is built on balance, just like our waking world is. However, it is possible for that balance to be slightly tilted one way or the other. Occasionally, an extra evil is created without a good to compensate. I’ve met some nasties in the Dreaming, and I have no qualms at all about blowing them away. Trust me, when some dark and evil thing is threatening you, chances are you’re not thinking of balance.

      Anyway, control is good to a degree. I’ll reiterate: one of the most important things is experience and knowing the difference between a regular, run-of-the-mill dream and a high lucidity dreamwalking experience. That way, you won't inadvertently get yourself into trouble.

      “Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.”
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      Control, if i could have my vote back, i would choose the 2nd one, my eyes are open now.
      As i dont have ultimate expirience in lucidity, and i am not as far 'down the rabbit hole' as some of you, my LD's and normal dreams haven't been as.......eventful?

      Your right, its important to have some control, to be lucid, but also to follow the normal path of the dream, obviously its there for a reason. There is also the arguement that dreams are nothing but your mind, and spurts of energy, in forms of immagery. So if this were the case, then i think full control would be great.

      In my dreams now, im fighting to actually gain lucidity, as it has been a month We shall see, we shall percieve.

      hey that sounded cool!
      oh well, My vote goes from #1 to #2 as i obviously was indecisive. now i am sure.
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      I can't yet answer for few lucid dreams I have had.
      More frequent reality check I must.

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      Six voters so far. Anyone else with opinions?
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      I'm not voting. you can experience some amazing or fun things without trying to conrtol things, but you could have just as much fun with some control. what I mean is...sometimes control is good, like Lost Soul said she was sitting there with a hotdog but doesn't like them. what's she gonna do? turn it into a cookie. I think...it really all depends on..wether or not you think the dreamworld is a whole nother plane. I...personally believe it's in your head. but before you form an angry mob, I am starting to believe otherwise. basically...I'm on the fence here. along with alot of other things...just need some time to study and find things out for myself yes?


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      I voted for control. Total control. I have only achieved it once, but I am hooked.
      Early Morning Moment,
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      But soon it's Over, and I return to Dust...

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      If I ever run out of Ideas of what to do in my dreams, I think I'll go along with whatever strange story my subconcious will have in store for me.

      But my first few LD's will be definetly under some strict controll ^^

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      Well, I vote for control.
      By control I mean - you simply replace actions of your subconsciousness with your actions.
      Control is a good thing.

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      I too believe in control. But not total control. I have had several nightmares that I changed for the better. Which control seems to be an obvious advantage. But I think our sub-concious needs to take its own path . I agree with seeker. Let our subconcius tell us somthing we can't figure out. Let the dream world take shape around your conciois eyes and learn. If we were to exercise complete control we might as well be awake.

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      Total control, unless it's going somewhere. My dreams don't get that special.

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      I say that no cotrol is the same as ALL control.

      When one gains the ultimate control of dreaming, one gains clairity.
      This clairity can set a soul down 2 paths. If one harnesses clairity and attempts to control every aspect of dreaming, one becomes their own illusion. However, if one gains total control and then LEAVES it behind, they are very wise indeed, for no person knows what is best for themselves, we merely think we know.

      I no longer lucid I feel no need to I have done everything I could imagine and now I feel no need to force my will upon myself.

      True clairity is to know that clairity is itself YOUr own illusion. None of us know the right way of the universe! No one can know!

      Total control and No control do become the same for those of us who transcend whatever the first dreaming stage is.

      BEACAUSE

      When one controls ALL the only way to do so is by thinking (dreaming) of NOTHING. All = Nothing. Tao = Te.

      When one dreams all that can be dreamed all that is left are infinite expanses of potential nothing! Infinite beautiful flowing nothing! ALL 0!

      I vote no control...but one has to have SOME control to reach this point.
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      If I try to exert too much control I always wake up. In fact I can't become fully aware that I'm dreaming and stay asleep. I have to be sort of semi-aware that I'm dreaming.
      I believe in a long, prolonged derangement of the senses to attain the unknown. Although we live in the sub-concious, our pale reason hides the infinite from us.

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      Let it unfold to you. A god can do anything sure... but what do you learn? How do you deal with adverse events, blissfull events... You will learn who you are...

      I am the memory of all that has passed

      I can see who I have become from all these past learnings if I stay in controll of only myself. Sure you can learn to bend the laws of the dream world... but there is cost to you, its not just some cartoon, its real.

      And you are just a small part of something that is incredibly great!

      Let yourself learn!!! find out who you are... test your mettle, see how far you can push you focus and how long you can let go, all of us wish to controll.. its a human desire to be in controll of all our situations... but we are not the only ones out there... there are others that wish the same...

      Go and find out who you are I say... stop hiding...stop letting yourelf beleive that you are a god... your not... none of us are, you will learn much more of yourself in conflict than you will in stagnation...
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      His heart knows only virtue.
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      His wrath undoes the wicked."

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      i always try very hard not to control, but i always have alot of control in my dreams, and the general story of whats going on usually sucks so...

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      the most effective control
      is letting go
      dreams and memories like ripples
      in the water of your mind

      eternity is inside us all, we all remember it
      everyone has the same story, everyone the same thoughts
      control fate
      fate controls you

      the illusion of control is desire, patterns of desire are idols before the
      divine infinity
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      Originally posted by Blulanou42
      the most effective control
      is letting go
      dreams and memories like ripples
      in the water of your mind

      eternity is inside us all, we all remember it
      everyone has the same story, everyone the same thoughts
      control fate
      fate controls you

      the illusion of control is desire, patterns of desire are idols before the
      divine infinity
      Blulanou I must say you are a very Deep DEEP! Individual.

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      Here's my two cents worth *cha-ching!!*...........

      People may argue that too much control in dreams is a bad thing because it limits the role that your hungry subconcious mind can play, thus preventing you from keeping an even keel or balance between concious and subconsious "selfs."
      Maybe I shouldn't assume that everyone is like I am, but even in my most confident lucid dreams, I NEVER, EVER have 100% control. You all know what I'm talking about.....things appear in our dreams (objects, people, scenery, etc.) that we didn't plan on. I mean, nobody starts a lucid dream in a whitewashed world, void of EVERYTHING.....no surroundings at all.
      It's our subconcious minds that set the scene for us, and introduce actors and props into the play. I think that the two halves of our selves DO communicate and work in tandem, even in a lucid dream.

      I guess that's the looooong way of saying "I vote for total control," even though I doubt anyone has ever had a lucid dream in which they were consiously in charge of ALL details.
      "Eat, drink, and make merry.....for tomorrow we DIE!"

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      code

      i have...
      meh, it's not all that cool.
      i sorta get board

      all that nothingness, in expanse around you
      you can wield it to your every whim and desire
      boundless infinities in the palm of your hand changing with every thought
      then the objects you create start to spin
      they start to be
      but
      they start to un-be

      the objects created grow decay die birth grow decay die
      over and over and over

      till there is no difference
      and your lives unfold before you
      as though they were the lives of all you could imagine

      transcending control, releasing one's desires, knowing clairity yet refusing it...

      that is where true lucidity begins in sleep
      that is where it starts to become the waking mind

      control sucks, har har !
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      I voted #2

      I voted for some control. It is really no fun to control everything in a dream. It's kinda like a kid growing up with parents who give him everything he wants. Eventually he becomes bored with everything. It is certainly fun to bend rules once in a while. I also find that if I try to exert to much control I almost always wake up immediately. Like even flying too fast or too high. I really agree with Blu as far as desires being idols. If we didn't have all these desires all the time, we could be at peace and see things more subjectively thus learning more from any experience. My favorite types of dreams are when the dream is very fantastical and I am very aware that it is a dream but don't choose to do anything but react in that situation. I think Seri is right on in saying that those are times when you learn the most about yourself. And I think most of the time, you can learn more in dreams because you subconsciously put yourself in more extreme situations and circumstances. Daily life is not very extreme for most. At least most of the time. I notice that when I get in a rut in life (just do the same things every day) my dreams are usually mundane. I have more extreme dreams when I try to change something about myself. Always. And that's a good time to learn about yourself - as you're changing. Probably the best time to seek understanding.
      Just a friendly reminder to do a reality check. : ) Are you dreaming? How do you know?

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      It's probably a bit early for me to be making decisions like this, but I voted "Some control."

      I'd like to add an asterisk to that, though. I don't think total control is wrong, nor do I think choosing not to control anything is wrong. I think everyone needs to make the best decision for themselves. I think a lot of lucid dreamers (like myself) are fascinated by the thought of total control, and it's not a bad thing. They just need to get this out of their system before moving onto the more important matters of exploring their subconscious, or possibly the astral. The astral plane is something I know zip about, having no personal experience there. If I ever find myself there it would be wrong to try and exert control over anything.

      The most important control is that which you have over yourself.
      Tonight's the night. And it's going to happen again, and again. It has to happen.

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      The things I reached..the things I found..by not controlling..

      I could not live without anymore, you miss so much..you shall never live up to the full potential of the miracle of the everything and the astral plane as long as you remain in control of that what you cannot control.
      "You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."
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