Dreams about my ex-girlfriend

[Ixias]

First of all, sorry for any errors in the text. English isn't my first language. I've recently begun having dreams about my ex-girlfriend. It's been going on for maybe a month. Our relationship was pretty turbulent, she had problems with depression and cutting herself that I felt forced to help her with, although the problems are completely resolved now. We are still very close friends, and I have a new girlfriend that I'm engaged to. My ex is together with one of my best friends and they've been so for around a year. Just for a bit of background Now then, the first two dream I had about my ex I can't remember all that clearly. The thing I do remember from the first one is that we had sex, and that's pretty much all. Maybe a week later I had a dream that she died. Her ghost then followed me around in a very non-threatening way, she just sort of looked at me. The most recent dream I had just tonight, and this one I remember well. In the dream, me and a lot of our friends including my ex were visiting some sort of spa. I was just walking around there when I see that my ex is being dragged down into a whirlpool. I grabbed ahold of her and almost lost her but I managed to pull her to safety. She was crying and hugged me, and then there's a bit of a "fast forward" in the dream. Next thing I remember I'm eating breakfast and my ex's boyfriend, my best friend, comes up and talks to me. He insults me and I ask him why he's so angry at me for saving his girlfriends life. He then, like, drops the anger and gets teary-eyed and asks me how I managed to make her into what she is and if I understand how lucky I am. After this I woke up. I had the feeling that he was jealous of me (and that would make sense because he gets jealous really easily, and he and my ex almost had a fight in real life, not in a dream, over that the two of us are still so close to each other) because he couldn't "leave his imprint" on her. I have no idea if I did, though. Any help in interpreting this dream would be much appreciated, I'm drawing a few blanks myself. EDIT: I should probably also mention that me and my ex have nothing romantic for each other anymore, just after we broke up (~ 2 and ½ years ago) I was still in love with her for a few months but I am not anymore. EDIT2: Not sure if it's important, but I am turning 20 in a month, and my ex is almost exactly one year younger than me while her current boyfriend is almost exactly a year older than me (our birthdays are 14th, 19th and 21st of October, in order from oldest to youngest too). So that means that, when the two of us were together I was around 17 and she was around 16. We were together for about a year.

[Ixias]

I had another dream about her this night. This time, the two of us were at a mall just walking around and chatting. I felt a constant urge of hugging her and just being close to her. All of a sudden she disappeared, not like "poof-gone!" but more like I looked in a shop window for maybe ten seconds and when I turned back she was gone. I was very worried and began searching for her. Finally I found her but she had changed her clothes and style completely. Normally she is slightly emo, but now she was dressed like a skater and was even skating around. She also looked cleaner somehow, I couldn't put my finger on what it was. I asked her where she had gone off to but she just looked at me and didn't answer. My "desire", if you will, the need to hug her and be close to her was also gone. I didn't feel it anymore. After this there's a blurred part that I don't quite remember, but we were riding in a car. Then we were at my house and she had her normal clothes on. We went inside my house and then I woke up. This one I can't figure out. The thing is, my current girlfriend used to be a skater and she still sometimes wears baggy jeans and such even though she doesn't actually skate anymore. The part about her being cleaner is also confusing, I can't figure out what to make of it. Any help would be appreciated, if more information is needed just ask me and I'll answer to the best of my knowledge.

[SilverDreams]

You have to let go.

[SilverDreams]

[daeryk]

Your ex-girlfriend is either a symbol for a personality trait you have that you don't want anymore, or for desire for something you want. If you have sex with her in a dream it means you are creating more of whatever kind of thought or emotion she represents. If she dies in a dream it means this personality trait died, or changed. If her ghost haunts you then it symbolizes the personality trait she represents bothering you or haunting you. The only thing I can suggest is to monitor your thoughts and begin to ask yourself why you think things. Try to be a lot more self-aware of what is going on in your head like noticing fear, desire, and other negative thoughts or emotions.

[themiz4]

In a way I'm having the same kind of dream. I've been broken up with my girlfriend for 2 years or so now and i always seem to dream about me having to save her from something or her dying. I used to dream about saving her from a great white shark that's hunting her and I have to surf down the beach to save her and outrace the shark in this horrible storm. I always saved her at the last second and I had that same dream about 10 times. Last night I had a different dream. My ex and I were out having fun at some random college party. She vanishes for some reason and I find this other really hot latina girl that I don't know at all and we end up "taking care of business." Then for some reason, I end up fighting 3 dudes and whooping them all really badly and I spend some time in jail for assault. At the end of the dream, I meet up with my ex girlfriend again for a second and then she is gone again. After that I go to some weird place, and theres an indoor pool inside this really nice room. It turns out that my girlfriend died (dont know how or when this happens) and in the dream I get really emotional and can't stop crying. I keep going back to this pool for days and years after in the dream and i say her name and cry and everytime i do that these weird bright lights come towards me from under the water in the pool. The lights are my ex girlfriend and I try to take her out of the water and bring her back with me but something wont let me and then it gets even more depressing. What's up with this dream cause these ex girlfriend dreams aren't making things any easier for me cause I've been dating other people for a while now and I still have them.