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Burned up
Dreams about yearning for love/oneness with another are not unusual but they are very powerful - probably second only to nightmares for their ability to affect us for hours or even days afterwards.
I believe there can be many things wrapped up in dreams like yours, and TL has offered you an interpretation of these, but the central theme for me is your strong feeling for this girl. Maybe it's like she enchants you somehow, but if so it's down to what's going on for you and nothing to do with the real her. My personal belief is that we're tapping into a feeling from infancy where we felt safe,secure and loved by those closest to us. Also that we felt torn apart when we realise just how alone and individual we really are and that there isn't someone there for us 24/7. We spend our lives trying to find a lover to recapture that state of closeness and sometimes it will work but usually only for a short while until the person in question turns out not to be the person in our fantasies, but in fact a real person with real thoughts and feelings about things other than ourself.
Although dreams like this leave us feeling we've lost love, I think in fact they remind us how much we are drawn to love. The challenge is to accept someone as they really are rather than what our fantasies and dreams would like them to be. And that applies whether you're 16 or 116.
In short, don't waste your time looking for the feeling in the real world, because you'll always be disappointed. Welcome it into your dreams and get to know your dream girl where she really exists ("she" will sometimes take the form of a person known to you and sometimes - usually in my case - a complete stranger). For more information on this idea, look up Jung's description of the "anima" - just google "jung anima" for shedloads of information.
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