why am i dreaming about my EX?

[catrina]

last night i had a dream about my ex boyfreind. I am kind of starting to miss him, but anyway i had a dream that he came back and my dad really did like him. Anyway here's the dream: First we ran into eachother (not literally) and he gave me an envelope (possibly for my birthday or something) and it was all of the letters that i wrote to him. He didn't mean to hurt me by giving me this envelope; although it did make me feel a little bad. Anyway the envelope was all of the old letters i wrote to him; letters that i wrote on the verge of our breakup; letters that pleaded him to stay with me. The reason he gave them back to me was because he thought that i might be thinking that he was going to show them to his friends and make fun of me for begging him to stay with me. So by him giving me the letters back, it was his way of showing me that he wasn't going to make public the pain i went trhough, and that he was sorry he hurt me. Okay, moving on. by the way, when i saw him in my dream, he had grown out his facial hair. i haven't seen him since school got out, so i don't know if he really let his hair grow. Maybe that's a symbol or something. So he was showing me a new race car he was working on ( in reality he liked to race 4 cylander cars) and i could just feel the attraction between us, and i knew we were going to end up making out or something. And well, we did, and we went back to my house and my dad was glad that he came back. in reality, my dad doesn't like any of my boyfriends! But he really did like [jake] And well, lets just say even though my dad was home, we decided to be intamite and my dad walked in on us. That has never happened to me in real life, but my dad ended up hating him. But we still liked eachother. I've had dreams about boys that i really like. And i just have a feeling that if i keep having these "re-uniting" dreams about jake, that if i want to, and if i try, we will get back together. Because i've had that happen to me 2wice before. I really miss a guy, or i want him back, i start dreaming about us and us getting back together, and then it really does happen. So what will happen this time?

[ElijahJones]

I'm not sure what the question is on this one? Its apparently happened before twice so why not again? From an analytical standpoint I would say there seems to be a pattern in your life. Why this is so may not be of any interest to you. Why does dad not like any of your boyfriends? Is it possible you pick boys that you know your father will not like? These are the sort of obvious questions to ask. Plainly I think you already intepreted your dream, you want him back. And in the past when you have decided you want someone back you usually get them back. No mystery, no precognition as far as I can see. Perhaps a little bit of femme fatale power tripping but we all have our little delusions. Regards, EJ

[Leo Volont]

Dear Catrina, Be careful about getting back with guys that have dumped you before. I'm a guy and I have been in situations where I stopped calling certain ladies. time goes by and I think "Hmmmm. What was wrong with Whatshername? She was pretty. Her legs went all the way to the ground. Why don't I give her a call?" and it is never a happy ending. Why? Because as soon as you start going out again YOU REMEMBER why you stopped calling. If the guy has a problem with you, then he has a problem with you. Do you want some guy who resorts to you only when he is desperately lonely, and will dump you again as soon as he thinks he has a glimmer of a better choice? And what about your pride? do you think it should recommend him to you that he thinks he is so much better than you that he can toss you aside whenever he wants ... and it has got to be for other women. Honestly, you cannot allow yourself to be treated like that. If he comes back, the only thing you should give him is a slap hard enough to take his ______ head off. But then again, some women, like some men, would rather love then be loved. They don't really want to be with anybody, so they give their love to those who they really know won't return it. Loving them is fun. but if the love were returned it would be threatening. I remember such a thing myself. I LOVED this one lady named Bernadine. Really did. Then one day she announced that she loved me back. Surprise surprise, and I never would have guessed it, but the little voice in my head said "Ah oh". I felt anxiety when I thought I would have been the happiest man in the world. My loving her was okay. but her loving me back would close in awful fast. Suffocation City. And maybe I,m not the only one who finds it comfortable to love people who are very safe to love, because they won't love back. And dreaming about something doesn't mean it will happen or should happen. I used to dream of going back to smoking cigerettes. and yes, every time I smoked cigerettes in a dream, I would go back to smoking cigerettes in real life. It didn't mean it was right. Finally I had to quit cigerettes in my dreams.