husband crying

[swarbees]

My dreams usually don't make any sense whatsoever so I never feel I need an interpretation. But this dream was so close to what is actually happening in my life that I want to know the significance. Background~my 33yr marriage appears to be over. My husband has a new love and though we still live together he spends more time with her than home with me. He recently said that he doesn't feel that this new relationship is very stable and is almost exclusively physical. He says he doesn't want to divorce but I never see him and I receive no affection from him. Dream ~ I come into our house which is not well lit (maybe evening time) and my spouse is sitting in the dark crying inconsolably. I feel deep compassion and embrace him and asked what happened. He says she doesn't want him and has found someone else. He is devastated. I try to comfort him and continue the tight embrace. I tell him I understand what he is going through and I know how much pain this is for him. He says he is very grateful to me for staying with him and for being there for him now. The dream then skips to a different scene. I'm in a car talking to him on the phone. Its still dark (maybe dusk or heavy clouds) We are talking about how much better our relationship will be now that we have survived this event. I am feeling so wonderful about the relationship and I can't wait to get home to see him but instead of driving I park the car and get out and start running home. I'm naked except for a bra. I have absolutely no concerns about being naked, I'm just in a hurry to get home. When I get home our adult daughter is there with him and I accidentally let it slip about the affair. In waking life I have a 'best friend' relationship with our daughter and his relationship with her is quite strained and she doesn't know about the affair. In the dream he looks at me very hurt that I exposed him to her but his feeling is still one of love for me. I woke up at this point and the feeling wonderful about the relationship stayed with me through the morning even though in waking life it's looking like that relationship is getting stronger while ours is getting weaker and less important to him. He spends almost every weekend with her while I am home alone. I don't know if it is significant but the color in the dream is extremely desaturated. Not black and white just very faded color but with contrasty lights and darks. Is this just a reflection of what I want to happen? Why am I naked but with a bra? Why would I park the car and start running.. if I'm in a hurry to get home to him wouldn't it be quicker to drive?

[melanieb]

Is this just a reflection of what I want to happen? This sounds exactly like a reflection of your personal feelings. After 33 years you know more about him than any other human on Earth and it would only be natural to want him to return to you. Why am I naked but with a bra? This might suggest openness and vulnerability, your desire to open up to him and share your feelings and allowing yourself to be receptive to him. Why would I park the car and start running.. if I'm in a hurry to get home to him wouldn't it be quicker to drive? When we drive there is no real physical action and the mind doesn't connect to the change in location very well. When we run our body feels us moving. Your mind wanted you to get somewhere and in a hurry and driving isn't a direct action for the body. I hope this has a happy resolution. *hug*

[swarbees]

Thank you melanieb I hope so too but I have my doubts. He really has no affection left for me and everything I say and do sets him off. We didn't fight that much before this change and we still don't. But now we also don't laugh together or smile or even eat together. I told him about the dream and he looked a little spooked and said that she had a dream that same day. Saturday in the wee hours of the morning ~ her dream upset her and he asked her what it was about and she said there was just a lot of crying crying crying. She didn't say who was crying and the details may not be the same but it's still spooky.