Seeking analysis of last nights dream

[ylavidacontinua]

Hi everyone, newbie here. Had a dream last night that is troubling me and I'm interested to get any viewpoints on what it could mean. Some background - Chris and I were never a couple, we merely met incredibly randomly and had what I guess you'd call a week-long fling, but it was more than physical (we never had full sex), we definitely connected up there. It was intense - perhaps because he left for Paris for a year immediately after that week, I don't know. There are other things at play here - he is bisexual and I'm the first guy he said he'd felt this way for (although he had been physical with others). None of his friends know. So I haven't seen him since the end of September and we've been in scant contact since, just a few friendly Facebook private messages catching up, I guess. He's actually back in the UK now for a few weeks (we live several hundred miles apart when not in London, which neither of us are at the moment) and we may meet up in January although friends have advised me not to as I was quite a mess when he left. Anyway, the dream... I forget the circumstances surrounding our meeting, yet we did and he berated me for acting like I don't care, that the week we had meant nothing to me and that I've completely forgotten about me. Which is in fact how I feel about how he has been - I don't think he really feels this way as I initiated contact once he'd been gone for a few weeks, told him I missed him in that message, which he has never said back. Any ideas what this could possibly mean? I hope I've provided enough information (too much perhaps), and that it makes sense - am in bed with a stinking cold and have been attempting to write a paper over the last two days too. Any further questions to help with an analysis, just let me know. Many thanks in advance.

[Ciej]

I'll give this a go because feelings are involved. Let me explain my interpretative lens before moving on. I believe that the conscious mind is a product of the subconscious mind. I believe that you only have conscious access to a rudimentary amount of information at any given moment, and that the subconscious has fuller access. I also believe that dreams are a form of communication between the two parts. The fact that you "forget the circumstances surrounding [your] meeting" means that you were not lucid nor fully conscious in the dream until you met up with him. There's a quote by Jane Roberts that will most accurately sum up the point I'm trying to make: "Dreaming or awake, we perceive only events that have meaning to us." This isn't interpreting the dream as much as it is interpreting your psyche, and I think its pretty safe to say that you still have feelings for him. The fact that your dream representation of him conveyed similar emotions that you are having about him in return is a tricky thing to analyze. The one that I most lean towards is a hopeful but pragmatic representation, that you still have genuine feelings for him, that his presence in London and the possibility to rekindle that relationship is noted, that you are unsure of his emotional attachment to you, and that your subconscious wanted to show you a "best case-worst case" scenario if he returns those feelings but you don't give him a chance. But this leads me to another conclusion. You aren't looking for someone to interpret the dream. You are looking for someone to support you in an endeavor that you truly do want, that has been shut down and frowned upon by your friends. You want to hear someone else interpret your dream as "your subconscious knows he still has feelings for you, and its trying to convey that message." I can't give you that. I'm sorry. But I can tell you this. Follow you heart, my friend.

[ylavidacontinua]

Funnily enough, as you say, what you have told me what I was looking to hear, but it has told me what I needed to hear. Many, many thanks to you for taking the time to read my post and reply with such a thoughtful and insightful post, I am truly grateful. Wishing you a very happy holiday season.