Personally, I would suggest that you not stress too much about it, and I know this is easier said than done! I know because I too have had depression like issues. I am happily married. And I had a dream in which I asked a coworker out for a date. So it happens. I was furious with myself at first, but then I accepted it, and moved on. i decided that as long as I continue when conscious of it to choose to remain faithful to my husband, what my subconscious does if i cannot control it, I will not worry about it. The thing to keep in mind is that our dreams are much more uninhibited than our waking mind. We may dream of doing things we would never do in waking life, and our morality/conscience would not allow it. But in our dreams, our judgement is impaired. Your dream seems like a fairly typical fantasy. Many of us fantasize about actors or the roles they play, and it is harmless as long as it remains a fantasy, I.e. as long as you do not go out and stalk this actor in real life, and as long as while awake you know whom you love and that it is not this actor. Also are you sure that when you think back to this dream, you are longing to experience it again with the actor and not just longing to experience a kiss, a longing for intimacy? Perhaps your dreaming mind somehow knew that you cannot have that yet with your boyfriend, and in fuzzy dream logic your mind decided to kiss someone else since your boyfriend was off limits? By the way, I also fully understand the waiting for marriage part, so I am not suggesting you should not wait, just that part of your mind longs for intimacy now.
Anyway, do not be too hard on yourself. I know how hard it is not to be too hard on oneself, but it is necessary. We are all human, and dreams and fantasies are just dreams and fantasies, as long as they do not reflect a problem in waking life or do not spoil our waking life, it's ok.
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