Dream about ex has confused the hell out of me...

[anglichankata93]

Hello, My name is Lauren, I am 20 years old ( born in June if that helps anyone ). I live in Nottingham, England. I have had a strange dream about my ex and his new girlfriend.... I suppose I'd better give you the backstory first. I split up with my partner at the end of January. It was his decision, he said he didn't feel happy with me any more. He also told me he'd cheated on me while he'd been away in his home country. We continued to live in the same house for a few weeks, partly because of our one year old daughter, and partly because of the fact that we had to give a month's notice on our rented house. He slept in the single bed in the spare room. A couple of weeks after he announced he wanted to leave, his 'cousin' arrived in England looking for a job. She's a year older than me, and has a child of her own whom she'd left in her home country ( I won't mention the country as there are a lot of racist people around these days... though hopefully none of them are in this forum!). We sort of became friends. I confided in her that me and him were separating and that I was distraught and didn't know what to do. She comforted me and tried to help me do things that might make my partner change his mind. In the end, none of it worked. I went to live with my parents, and he went to live with his mother, who was also in England. His 'cousin' was already there living with her. At this point, his mother confided in me that she could not stand this girl, and that really they were not cousins at all, but related only very distantly through the marriage of his great-aunt. About three weeks later, I suddenly found the girl in facebook who my partner said he had cheated on me with. I started talking to her ( wouldn't you have?). I discovered that he hadn't slept with her at all. In fact, she was very offended that I thought so and I ended up apologising. I called him immediately and asked him why he had lied, and if I knew the person he had really slept with. He said that I didn't, but he wouldn't tell me her name. He said it wasn't serious, but that now he WAS in a serious relationship with someone else. I immediately asked him whether it was his 'cousin'. I don't even know why, I hadn't been even vaguely suspicious beforehand. He admitted that it was. I told him that under no circumstances was she to contact me or speak to me again, and she would have no access whatsoever to my daughter, no matter how 'caring' she had been to her before. If I'm honest, I felt more betrayed by the 'cousin' than I did by my partner. She had pretended to be my friend, when all the time she must have had feelings for ( or at least wanted to sleep with) my partner. His mother believes that they will not stay together long. She is trying her hardest to split them up as she hates the girl. She seems to believe that my dream is proof that they will split up soon. My family have made me realise that actually my partner was quite controlling, and that I have missed out on my life while being with him. I had more or less gotten over him and was making a start at my own life with my daughter, until I had this dream last night. Now I'm confused. After I had my dream last night, I woke up to discover that the pair of them had missed their plane back to their home country and were stranded at the airport. Right, now I'll tell you the dream....: ( for the purpose of the dream, my partner's nickname is Jimmy) It took place in my parents holiday home ( in my partner's home country ). Me, my mum and dad, Jimmy and the 'cousin'. Were all in the house. My parents went up to their bedroom to sleep, and that left the three of us on the sofa. My daughter was not in my dream, and I'm unsure why. I remember the first feeling as we sat like that was stress and unhappiness. It was familiar, as that is how I had felt in my partner's company for around the last six months. For a while they talked as I sat in silence, I cannot remember what about. Then, she put her head on Jimmy's shoulder and fell asleep. I put my head on his other shoulder, but could not sleep. Then he turned to me and said " shall we have sex?". I just nodded, and the stressed feeling immediately fell away. I actually felt the sex as though it were real. the 'cousin' was awake. I never actually saw her face at that point but I was definitely aware that she was awake and was just sitting there watching us have sex and not saying a word. Jimmy and I fell asleep together on the sofa. I don't know what happened to the 'cousin'. The next thing I know, I was waking up on the sofa alone. Jimmy was nowhere to be seen, but the 'cousin' was asleep on the other sofa at the other end of the room. I got up and started looking for Jimmy. I felt slightly panicky. I went upstairs to ask my mum and dad. My mum was in the bed, but for some reason my dad was asleep on the floor. My mum said that she thought Jimmy was outside, crying. I don't know why but I remember that I didn't immediately go outside. I carried on looking for him all through the house. I went through the living room a few times and his 'cousin' was still asleep on the other sofa. Finally I went outside, and he appeared from around the other side of the house and came towards me. I said ' Where were you? I was looking for you, I was worried.'. He just looked me right in the eyes and kissed me. Then he said. ' I have forgotten you, forgive me. Now we can see the world together'. Then he took me outside onto the street. It was the street where my parents holiday home actually is, and I recognised it completely. It translates into English as 'Freedom Street', which I've always loved. The only difference was that in my dream loads of cars were coming up and down, at high speeds. But I wasn't scared. We held hands and crossed the road without even blinking. I had a feeling that he was keeping me safe from the cars. Then when we reached the other side, we turned around and crossed back again. We did it two or three times. Then we went back into our garden. I had a feeling of lots of people being in the garden, and was somehow aware that they were having breakfast, and that my parents were with them too. I don't know how I knew it. I also couldn't see them, it was as though they were a sort of 'mass' on the fringes of my vision. The 'cousin' then stepped out of the house and stood smiling at us. I went inside first, and looked at the sofa where she had been sleeping. The place where her head had been, and the floor all around the sofa, was covered in sand and small round stones. I reacted to this as though it was normal, there was no surprise. Somehow, I knew they had fallen from her hair ( again, I don't know how I knew). I heard her voice from outside speaking to Jimmy. She said "Sorry, I am myself again now." Then Jimmy said, " No, I'M myself again now." Then he came inside and started to help me sweep up the stones and sand. Then I woke up. TELL ME WHAT THIS ALL MEANS??!!! PLEASE??!

[Hebdomeros]

I think the emotions are the most meaninful part of this and correct me if I'm wrong but do you generally make intuitive decisions in waking life? Everyones subconscious has its own language and symbolism, but whatever feelings you get about your dream in waking life may be a pertinent clue. You're ex in this dream as far as the symbolism means something to me represents salvation (from stress), Love, and protection (from fear). After what he did I would not listen to these feelings I would try and develop some emotional autonomy or transfer them onto someone more trustworthy. The subconsious is a mirror not a compass.