Thread: Need help interperting and controling a vivid recurring dream I have started having

Sure. First, let me say that you are taking a very mature view of the situation. It's not always easy to see our parts in things. I'm sure she was stressed, and I hope that under less stressful situations she is a nicer person to you. I know with my mom, it's like that all the time. And I think that's why I mentioned it - it sparked something in me. Still, I hope you were not offended by my bringing it up. I apologize if I did. I do not know your mother by any means.

As for the lucid dreaming technique, you have two ways that I know of to go about it. First, try to train yourself to become lucid whenever you feel fear. RC everytime you feel fear in waking life. The goal is to set an intention where you become lucid when you have nightmares. With repeating themes, these can be your triggers for RCing. The second way is to take whatever lucid dream you get - so you may become lucid and it's not a nightmare at all, and then simply ask the dream to bring your fears to you. Either way, once the fear is felt in the dream, stay with it, lucidly. See if you can flow love from your chest to whatever is frightening you, that's even better. Attempt to talk to any threatening dream figures. Ask the dream characters what their message is, or what they represent. After the fear passes, the dream will change. Often there's a transformation of a scary monster or other scary thing into something else. Or, a situation that was bad may become something good. In some cases, the scary figure will go into your dream body, giving you a feeling of new energy. I'm not sure how this work with your dream, being more of an anxiety and less of a heart-pounding nightmare (correct me if I'm wrong), but I'm sure you could get a lot of valuable information still, just by lucidly questioning the "Dream" itself, and any dream characters or objects.

I should say that I take a psychological view that dreams have a purpose. I believe they show us where we need to grow or heal psychologically. That's why exploring this sort of thing can be so helpful.

If you're interested in learning more, google "Shadow Work" and "Carl Jung" and read up. It's fascinating.

Edit: Here's a video you might find useful.