Thread: Recurring part of a dream

Originally Posted by teesma

Hello!

My name is Sandy, this is my first time using this forum (and thanks for having it here to help!!). I am 27 year old, single stay at home mom from Toronto, Ontario. I have been in a long distance relationship for just about a year with a man named Bob, and my dreams sort of center around him. Our relationship is not going well - I do all of the effort, he wants to talk to me but doesn't necessarily care about seeing me, etc - and I have been thinking about/trying to break it off for months now. A big part of helping me get over this was a vacation I took to Cuba, which is where I had the first dream. The beginning of the dreams are always vastly different from each other, but the end is always the same. So here goes.....

At the beginning of the first dream it's night time and I am in Cuba at the beach disco of my resort. I am also apparently playing Survivor. The people that I met in Cuba were all there. Bob shows up and we start talking. I tell him that I just can't deal with this anymore, and he gives me a whole song and dance about how he likes me but just not enough. I got really angry and I look to one of the girls there and tell her I'm quitting the game, and I don't care what happens, but don't let Bob win the million dollars. Then I walk up the stairs from the beach disco to go back to my room.

When I get to the top of the stairs it's daytime and I'm on my street in Toronto. There is a bench outside of my house and two police officers are sitting on it. My dog runs out from behind them and comes to see me. I am upset that my dog is loose, and one of the police officers says to me that I need a better chain for her - she's been loose a couple times. My dog is a chihuahua and doesn't need a chain I tell them, and they say nothing. So I'm double angry now, and I take the dog into the house, but no one's there.

So I decide to go for a walk and I end up at the park by my house. There is a baseball diamond there and bleachers, so I went to sit on the bleachers. Bob's mother (who I have never met in real life, haven't even seen a picture) is there. She asks me to sit beside her, and she makes me calm because she's so sweet. She says that Bob just doesn't know what he wants and that I shouldn't give up on him so easily. I say that I am a parent and I don't have time or energy to waste on people who don't actually care about me. She just tells me to be patient and give it time. That's all I remember.

So I had that dream at the beginning of May. And maybe 10 times since I will have a random, normal dream where things from my day come at me, but I always end up at the park on the bleachers with Bob's mother. I don't understand why this keeps coming up, especially since I am not really interested in pursuing things with Bob anymore and I have no connection to his mother. Is it just me tricking myself into staying?

Please help!! And thanks so much for giving me and others a place to get some help!!

Hello Sandy,

I would like to interpret this dream for you. I just need a couple more pieces of info:

What is your ethnicity (e.g., I'm German/English)?
What is your astrological sign?

Look forward to hearing from you.

Gordon

Hi Gordon, thanks for helping

I'm Canadian of Irish/Scottish decent, and I'm a Cancer (June 25).

I look very forward to hearing your interpretation.

Hello Sandy,

Great, I got the information, and I will post the interpretation in this forum when I finish it. Unfortunately, it won't be today, because I have other dreams in through my website, and I always do those first. But I have your info, and I will be interpreting this dream (definitely within the next couple of days).

Sincerely,

Gordon

Originally Posted by Gordon Jerome

Hello Sandy,

Great, I got the information, and I will post the interpretation in this forum when I finish it. Unfortunately, it won't be today, because I have other dreams in through my website, and I always do those first. But I have your info, and I will be interpreting this dream (definitely within the next couple of days).

Sincerely,

Gordon

Thanks so much!!! I really appreciate it. I'm going to use this information along with lots more to make the right decision.

You rock!!!

The Dream:

This dream occurred in May of 2009, and is of a reoccurring nature. A dreamer known to me as Sandy dictated it in the Dream Views forum with an open request for interpretation. I read the dream initially on July 11th, and posted my interpretation on July 13, 2009. I have cut and pasted her dictation of the dream as follows:

At the beginning of the first dream it's night time and I am in Cuba at the beach disco of my resort. I am also apparently playing Survivor. The people that I met in Cuba were all there. Bob shows up and we start talking. I tell him that I just can't deal with this anymore, and he gives me a whole song and dance about how he likes me but just not enough. I got really angry and I look to one of the girls there and tell her I'm quitting the game, and I don't care what happens, but don't let Bob win the million dollars. Then I walk up the stairs from the beach disco to go back to my room.

When I get to the top of the stairs it's daytime and I'm on my street in Toronto. There is a bench outside of my house and two police officers are sitting on it. My dog runs out from behind them and comes to see me. I am upset that my dog is loose, and one of the police officers says to me that I need a better chain for her - she's been loose a couple times. My dog is a chihuahua and doesn't need a chain I tell them, and they say nothing. So I'm double angry now, and I take the dog into the house, but no one's there.

So I decide to go for a walk and I end up at the park by my house. There is a baseball diamond there and bleachers, so I went to sit on the bleachers. Bob's mother (who I have never met in real life, haven't even seen a picture) is there. She asks me to sit beside her, and she makes me calm because she's so sweet. She says that Bob just doesn't know what he wants and that I shouldn't give up on him so easily. I say that I am a parent and I don't have time or energy to waste on people who don't actually care about me. She just tells me to be patient and give it time. That's all I remember.

So I had that dream at the beginning of May. And maybe 10 times since I will have a random, normal dream where things from my day come at me, but I always end up at the park on the bleachers with Bob's mother. I don't understand why this keeps coming up, especially since I am not really interested in pursuing things with Bob anymore and I have no connection to his mother. Is it just me tricking myself into staying?


Dreamer’s Biographical Info:

Sandy is an articulate, obviously intelligent, 27-year-old woman of Irish/Scottish descent who lives in Toronto, Ontario in Canada. Her astrological sun is in Cancer, and while I have not analyzed her natal chart or transits for the time of this dream, I feel confident I can render a reasonably accurate interpretation with the information I have. Sandy is a single mother in a strained, long distance relationship with a man named, Bob. She feels she puts forth all the effort in the relationship, and a recent vacation to Cuba helped convince her that it might be best to break it off with him. She had her first dream in this reoccurring series there.


Assessment of the Dream:

This dream is a message dream without precognitive elements or indicators of lucidity.

I don’t think there is any particular symbolism to this dream taking place in Cuba, since that is where you were when you had the dream. There is no particular symbolism regarding Bob, and most likely the message you are getting from Bob is the absolute truth of the situation. He really doesn’t like you enough to play the part of boyfriend in what has become a game of a relationship.

You decide to quit the game, but you don’t want him to win. This is important.

When you ascend from the lowness of playing this relationship game, it is daylight. This indicates that you must leave the game, climb out of the game, in order to return to the light. But now you are back at your apartment in Toronto, and this does represent your soul. Why do two policemen guard it? What do they represent? Notice they have not even allowed your small dog into your soul.

These police represent a hypercritical nature in your spirit. It is through that nature that they guard you against intruders. They keep emotional entanglements away from you. And you are angry with them, but make no mistake: they’re your guards. I don’t get for a minute that they are malevolent spirits that oppress you. They are there at your command. Notice how you are free to talk back to them about leash laws. How dare they tell you who you can keep on a leash and who you can’t?

And sure enough, when you enter your apartment, your soul, it is empty.

Now, if the police aren’t malevolent spirits, Bob’s mother definitely is. She feeds you the lie that keeps you in this detestable relationship. I’m not surprised at all that she keeps oppressing you in this dream. I never trust “sweet” people in dreams. They’re always up to no good, it seems. Oh, and notice that you’re sitting on bleachers that overlook what? A game.


Conclusion:

I don’t know how to be more clear about this: dump Bob and get on with your life, and the next time you see his mother in your dreams, sick your Chihuahua on her. After all, the dog is your closest companion.

The relationship is a joke. It’s very much a game, and you’re attached to it because you don’t want to lose. Well, Sandy, they lied to us: nobody wins. Unleash Bob and move on. And, yes, that might mean you will get your heart broke if you meet someone new and it doesn’t work out.

And make no mistake about it, Bob, like the guards you have outside your soul are just convenient ways you have of keeping a good man out. But you know what they say: no pain, no gain.

Long distance relationships are just a way we lie to ourselves. We don’t have to do any of the work of a real relationship, yet we don’t have to face up to being loners. You know, of course, that this guarded behavior is very much like a Cancer, and the two police officer guards easily represent the crab with two claws. Also, Cancers tend to be clingy. So, if Cancer is your fatalistic force, then use this as an opportunity to overcome it and progress spiritually.

I know this is a hard message, and I wish it were more positive-sounding. Yet, if you do move on, you might really find someone you love, and that’s very positive.

Good luck to you, Sandy. I know it will all work out. That’s why you had this dream. You’re on your way.

Sincerely,

Gordon

Applause for Gordon.

Knowing how women ask advice from each other, I wondered about this:

You are double angry at the police guards to your “home”. They are not working/lazy (sitting police) and giving bad advice (your tiny dog needs a chain)=you are angry at your internal, self-protection mechanisms OR your friends that you have confided in and sought advice about Bob. The policemen should have protected you from Bob’s crap. (Perhaps a friend set you up with Bob for the first date? Perhaps a friend told you repeatedly that he was a great guy? Perhaps you recognized he wasn’t Mr. Right from the beginning but didn’t listen to your inner, police voice?) You believe the police haven’t been effective AND gave you dumb advice (about loyalty/faithfulness---the dog). The end result of the ineffective advisors (police guards) caused you to feel lonely/empty/depressed?

Who are the policemen? Are they friends or is it your self-protective mechanism? Why are there TWO policemen and not just one? Did you have multiple friends that gave you non-protective advice about Bob? Did your internal protection mechanisms warn you multiple times about Bob?

EDIT-In my large city, policemen are always in pairs. Maybe its the same in Toronto? If so the "two" may be without meaning?

SomeONE was missing from your home when you finally entered it. Who was missing? Bob? You? Did Bob abduct you from your own home (take away security/happiness)? Have you made plans to give Bob “the boot” and that’s why he wasn't in your home? Perhaps this your subconscious telling you that Bob isn't currently in your life or not emotionally involved with you? The statement that your home was empty is very significant...you know the answer.

After thinking on this.......

Your angry response to the policemen: My :loyalty/love is very small or has diminished (tiny dog) towards Bob because Bob doesn’t care about seeing me (Bob is not in my empty home).

Thanks so much!!

You guys are totally bang on with the interpretations. I have actually used the term game to describe this situation thousands of times. And from reading your interpretation Gordon, I totally understand. I actually think the Survivor thing makes perfect sense, as it's a game where some will cheat and lie and be underhanded to get what they want, and that's kind of how Bob plays me. I understand about the police officers, too. As for Bob's mother, I actually got chills when I read it, because I've known it all along and was tricking myself. That's amazing!!

Liz, I think that the part about my house being empty also could have to do with my son. He wasn't there. And when I'm talking to Bob's mother in the dream I tell her over and over that I'm a parent and I don't have time for this. Maybe the dream was telling me that I'm afraid I'm not devoting enough attention to my son because my energy is focused on Bob. As far as I know in real life it's not, but could it be that I'm warning myself about this?

Thank you both so much!! This dream has been eating away at me for ages. And the Bob's mother thing, glad to know it's not actually someone telling me to hang in, because I don't know if I could.

Originally Posted by teesma

Thanks so much!!

You guys are totally bang on with the interpretations. I have actually used the term game to describe this situation thousands of times. And from reading your interpretation Gordon, I totally understand. I actually think the Survivor thing makes perfect sense, as it's a game where some will cheat and lie and be underhanded to get what they want, and that's kind of how Bob plays me. I understand about the police officers, too. As for Bob's mother, I actually got chills when I read it, because I've known it all along and was tricking myself. That's amazing!!

Liz, I think that the part about my house being empty also could have to do with my son. He wasn't there. And when I'm talking to Bob's mother in the dream I tell her over and over that I'm a parent and I don't have time for this. Maybe the dream was telling me that I'm afraid I'm not devoting enough attention to my son because my energy is focused on Bob. As far as I know in real life it's not, but could it be that I'm warning myself about this?

Thank you both so much!! This dream has been eating away at me for ages. And the Bob's mother thing, glad to know it's not actually someone telling me to hang in, because I don't know if I could.

Your very welcome, Sandy. I'm glad you found it useful. More power to you!

Gordon