Seriously need to get back into and would appreciate advice

**livingthedream** · 11-20-2016 07:10 PM

Hey all, how is it going? i'm a 21 year old college student who got into lucid dreaming in Oct 2014 and hit my peak last summer in August 2015 (you can scroll thorugh my posting history). Mainly i was MILDing and doing mnenomonic exercises throughout the day to train my prospectiv ememory.

When i returned back to school that year I pretty much completely fell out of the process, I still DJ but its nowhere near consistent enough and my recall isn't at rock bottom (i remember fragments every night) but I was at a point where I was consistently remembering 3-6 full dreams a night, with fragments and sometimes eight dreams a night. I'm sitting here honestly pretty pissed at the time I've lost but I cant change whats happened and I am going to definitely approach this more seriously again.

How would the people of this great community, with such passion for LDing, recommend that I rekindle my own flame and spark up my passion again? Thanks

**~~MasterMind~~** · 12-06-2016 02:30 PM

Late post, but you deserve a reply.

I recommend that you make the passion about the practice itself and not the result. Lucid dreaming is like any other practice, it will take time so you might as well have fun during the way and enjoy the journey. There is just too much hype and expectation about different things in life, so the real deal feels dull. For example, chick flicks isn't how love looks like, porn isn't like real sex, and what you read and expect about lucid dreaming isn't going to match your own experience.

The problem with motivation isn't there because you don't achieve your result, it's there because you have too high expectations.

Love the small steps and you can walk the whole stair! If you aim too high and try to get up there in one jump, you will tumble and fall.

So identify your current level and enjoy practicing what already is your strength and overtime you build on that.

When most beginners were upset by not achieving lucid dreams, I was excited because my dream recall was improving.

Now I love to practice and learn about awareness in general, and then lucidity is an afterthought.

Set up your life in a way that makes it about the action torwards success and not about the success in itself, and you got control of your own success rate.

And as always, I'll recommend meditation, because that trains your brain to operate from the prefrontal cortex that governs self-awareness, willpower and well-being. This way motivation (and lucidity) doesn't have to be sparked, it is your state of mind.

Peace!

**livingthedream** · 12-20-2016 06:15 AM

Originally Posted by MasterMind

Late post, but you deserve a reply.

I recommend that you make the passion about the practice itself and not the result. Lucid dreaming is like any other practice, it will take time so you might as well have fun during the way and enjoy the journey. There is just too much hype and expectation about different things in life, so the real deal feels dull. For example, chick flicks isn't how love looks like, porn isn't like real sex, and what you read and expect about lucid dreaming isn't going to match your own experience.

The problem with motivation isn't there because you don't achieve your result, it's there because you have too high expectations.

Love the small steps and you can walk the whole stair! If you aim too high and try to get up there in one jump, you will tumble and fall.

So identify your current level and enjoy practicing what already is your strength and overtime you build on that.

When most beginners were upset by not achieving lucid dreams, I was excited because my dream recall was improving.

Now I love to practice and learn about awareness in general, and then lucidity is an afterthought.

Set up your life in a way that makes it about the action torwards success and not about the success in itself, and you got control of your own success rate.

And as always, I'll recommend meditation, because that trains your brain to operate from the prefrontal cortex that governs self-awareness, willpower and well-being. This way motivation (and lucidity) doesn't have to be sparked, it is your state of mind.

Peace!

Thank you very much for the reply. Your words resonate with me and are I think a fair assessment of my progress and how to improve my mindset.

I will take what you have said into consideration, very helpful not just for LDing but lots of other waking life projects I'm working on. Cheers!