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      Sweet as Candy

      I had a thought.
      It's nothing serious, nothing that well thought through, and I don't really have any reliable sources. But it's still food for thought.
      A thought about pedophilia.

      I saw an interview some time back, with a woman who had been an overeater, and how she got out of it. She explained a bit about what it was like, why she did it and what it took to get her out of it.
      She explained that there were psychological problems that made her want something sweet for comfort, which she could get from eating.
      Psychologists then helped her understand herself better, and in the end didn't need the sweetness.

      I just thought, for a bit. I have a heavy addiction for Pepsi Max.
      Pepsi Max is sweet. Could I be some kind of overeater?

      Then it hit me.
      Children are "sweet".
      Could it be... ? Pedophilia is something much closer to overeating, than it is to being a sexuality of its own?

      Identity crisis, and feeling a need for comfort. They all match. But did they come after the pedophilia, or are they the cause?

      Food for thought, food for thought.
      Just felt like letting that out here. What do ya think?

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      I will think about that, but my automatic response wants to say "it's not connected".
      Actual sex with children is more about control (as are every other sex crime I can think of). Yes. Children are "sweet". They're innocent, uncorrupted, playful and imaginitve etc. Those things could possibly intice someone to be innitially attracted to them (sexually or otherwise).
      But to actually give in to the desire is to corrupt the innocence. It's exerting power over the powerless.
      BUT, like over eating, the desire itself is addictive and usually points at a larger underlying problem.

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      Interesting idea, but like Zhaylin, my initial reaction is "it's completely different".

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      Remember that when I say "pedophilia", I talk about the attraction to children - Not the act of doing anything sexual with children

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      Some people are attracted to women. Some people are attracted to men. Some are attracted to both. Most people find others most attractive around their early twenties. Some people's age of interest is higher, and some lower.

      That's more how I'd think of it.

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      I like vamps lol

      tbh, I imagine a large portion of them are in fact just sickos looking for an easy target, but I agree there is more than likely a small portion who cant help it any more than gays or straights. The problem is, of course, the ones who act on it.
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      tbh, I imagine a large portion of them are in fact just sickos looking for an easy target,
      These are called child molesters. They are not necessarily pedophiles.

      but I agree there is more than likely a small portion who cant help it any more than gays or straights. The problem is, of course, the ones who act on it.
      Small portion?
      Get out.

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      Remember that when I say "pedophilia", I talk about the attraction to children - Not the act of doing anything sexual with children
      Please, at least just READ it?

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      erm, I did. In my post I stated that the small portion in question are ones who act on it. It would be much harder to gauge how many there are who dont act on it.


      edit: perhaps my wording didnt make that clear, but, I did it with this post.
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      Hurrr, I see.

      Well I was gonna come and make a post to apologize for being hostile...
      I got a bit annoyed there, don't mind me ._ .

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      You don't need to apologise Maeni; you probably were just expecting to be surrounded by intolerant fools who needed to be slapped in the face a bit to make them understand. When it comes to paedophilia, this is more of the population.

      My attraction to boys is a lot more like the taste of marmite than the taste of sugar... doesn't have so much to do with 'sweetness'. But it does have a lot to do with cuteness, adorableness, and the sexual attraction to it.

      Couldn't paedophilia simply be a case of confusing the 'adorable' instinct with the 'shag' instinct. I have seen it that way for a couple of years.

      However my attraction at least is far more emotional than it is sexual. A boy is something what I actually yearn for, that I need to fill my heart. I want to love a boy more than I want to love a partner of the same generation. Most of the time I just want to hug the shit out of a boy or shower them with kisses. My favorite, just us peacefully falling asleep with my arms around him.

      I find it hard to understand how this came from a desire for 'sweetness' and comfort.

      But anyway, I am pretty sure that people from EVERY sexuality will turn to it for comfort. So... what's your point?
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      Quote Originally Posted by Idolfan View Post
      You don't need to apologise Maeni; you probably were just expecting to be surrounded by intolerant fools who needed to be slapped in the face a bit to make them understand. When it comes to paedophilia, this is more of the population.
      ehem, I believe that is my place to say, seeing as he was aggressive at me

      but yes, its ok. I try to see from people's perspectives who cant help something, especially if it is a society taboo. I know sometimes I dont sound like it, but if I dont, then its probably because Im reasoning out loud lol
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      Quote Originally Posted by Idolfan View Post
      You don't need to apologise Maeni; you probably were just expecting to be surrounded by intolerant fools who needed to be slapped in the face a bit to make them understand. When it comes to paedophilia, this is more of the population.

      My attraction to boys is a lot more like the taste of marmite than the taste of sugar... doesn't have so much to do with 'sweetness'. But it does have a lot to do with cuteness, adorableness, and the sexual attraction to it.

      Couldn't paedophilia simply be a case of confusing the 'adorable' instinct with the 'shag' instinct. I have seen it that way for a couple of years.

      However my attraction at least is far more emotional than it is sexual. A boy is something what I actually yearn for, that I need to fill my heart. I want to love a boy more than I want to love a partner of the same generation. Most of the time I just want to hug the shit out of a boy or shower them with kisses. My favorite, just us peacefully falling asleep with my arms around him.

      I find it hard to understand how this came from a desire for 'sweetness' and comfort.

      But anyway, I am pretty sure that people from EVERY sexuality will turn to it for comfort. So... what's your point?
      I think we may be talking about the same thing...
      Peacefully falling asleep like that, is what I'd say is sweet and comfortable :3
      So, uh, yeah.

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      Quote Originally Posted by tkdyo View Post
      ehem, I believe that is my place to say, seeing as he was aggressive at me

      but yes, its ok. I try to see from people's perspectives who cant help something, especially if it is a society taboo. I know sometimes I dont sound like it, but if I dont, then its probably because Im reasoning out loud lol
      I don't read threads all the way through...

      I cut corners.
      The starz...
      The planets...
      The intricate and dynamic machinery of nature...
      Are you saying,
      that all of this was created,
      BY A MONKEY??????

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      That's some deep thinking there Maeni.

      This has actually made me want to look deeper into my catgirl thing.

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