Thread: Very unnerving dream. Please Help.

Hi DreamofGhosts,

Welcome to Dreamviews. I'm really new here myself.

That was an unnerving dream indeed, no wonder that you feel as you do. I was wondering about some things when reading your post, which may help in understanding and dealing with this dream, which hopefully doesn't reoccur...

1) Was it an ordinary dream, or a lucid one? If you are not familiar with the difference, how much influence over the situation did you have? That is, were you able to make act on your own, or were you more of an spectator, just viewing and experiencing the dream?

2) Dreams are often mirroring something in our waking life...have you been hearing about/knowing someone who has been raped or assaulted? In that case, that may spill over into your dreams.

I asked about how much control you had in your dream because if you have it again, and it's a lucid one, you may be able to change the turn of events, either by forcing yourself to wake up, or, if you have greater control, change how the dream plays out...for example, to stop your boyfriend from entering the room, or why not just not communicate with the ghost to begin with and just leave the room yourself, before anything more has happened.

The fact that your boyfriend is possessed and assaults you, even though you say he is nothing like that, may just be that if you have been thinking of sexual assualt from hearing about it or anything like that, or simply is afraid that something like that may happen to you, your mind may use your boyfriend to illustrate this. That he gets possessed by the ghost may then be a way to explain his actions and change of personality, since he isn't like that at all, according to what you say in your post.

If you have been hearing/being afraid of being sexually assaulted/raped lately, a suggestion would be either to try to focus on something else, just to take your mind off the matter, or, if you find that it isn't possible, why not take up self-defence, so you start feeling more secure and know that you have a good chance of defending yourself, if such a situation would ever occur.

Have you told your boyfriend about this? He may be able to help you too. Just talking about it may help too.

Hope my input may be helpful to you. I'm sure there are others here that may be able to help as well.

If you had this dream once only i wouldn't read too much into it. It's likely just a nightmare albeit a very vivid one. If you have or had this dream multiple times or a variation of this level of ' threat' within dreams i would think you have something troubling your subconscious mind and it's manifesting as harmful nightmares. The general gist of this nightmare seems to be you losing control of yourself ( possession of your body by a ghost, being attacked, feeling exhausted etc) so assuming this is a subconscious message and not a one off nightmare, perhaps you are having 'control' issues with one or more of your personal relationships? It doesn't have to be your boyfriend you have the issue with, your dream can use the image of anyone or a total stranger to deliver the message. Have a think about if you are having a 'mental' struggle with someone in your life.. if not and this dream only happens once i would put it down to your imagination running wild and forget about it

AstralExplorer

Thank you for your reply.

1. It was an ordinary dream and not lucid.
2. I haven't heard anything about sexual assault or rape lately, and I don't know anyone personally who has experienced it. I also haven't been thinking about it.

I haven't brought it up to him just yet. I don't like bringing up things like this until I've explored it fully by myself. Thank you for your input I'll chalk it up to a weird dream and leave it unless it happens again.

DreamingJoe

This is the first time I've had a dream like this If it happens more frequently I'll make sure to seek further advice.

Hello again DreamofGhosts,

You're welcome. No problem, glad to be of help, somewhat anyway. Hope your dream was once, and never again.

Ok, I think this kind of dream, if it had been lucid, would have carried more importance to you or your situation in life, in one way or another. Although it was unnerving, now, you still felt it was "just a dream" and no more. Still, if it happens again, work on getting lucid before anything bad happens in it, and try to find out the reason, within the dream, to why this happens. Maybe you even can get the ghost to explain why. If not, and you manage to go lucid, just get out of there, switch scene or something like that. Remember, when lucid, it's your dream, and you can do whatever you want. However, I do hope you want have this dream again.

DreamingJoe has an interesting point in that you may have some kind of trouble with a close realtionship and that it shows in your dream this way. Maybe because this may be the worst you/your mind could up with, and through showing it in a dream you get the process the feelings of inability to defend yourself etc. It could also be some other relation or something you've read, heard, experienced which is not directly connected to actual abuse/rape.
If it happens again, try to find out in what situation you feel vulnerable, and think of what you may do to solve that matter.

Let us now, if you keep on having it.

Good luck.