Dream girl trying to make me lucid?!?

[DavidGT650R]

Ok i want to apologise in advance as i may ramble on but please stick with me lol I guess ill just explain my last 2 dreams and hope for some feedback. Alright dream 1. My wife and i in real life have been searching for a new place to live. In my dream we found a place...rather she found a place and rented it, i walked into it for the first time and looked around, i thought it was great. Our dogs must have already been there because i caught a glympse of them run by real fast. Nothing real out of the ordinary was happening untill my mother in law becca walked in with her boyfriend? Not the real one but a random dream guy. My wife also walked in but i didnt see her i guess she was behind me...anyway, so were all in this huge bathroom in the new appartment, and becca decides shes going to get naked and try out our shower...i guess thats fine i think to myself because my mother in law is smokin hot...anyway. So then imaginary dream boyfriend jumps in the shower with her and they start kissing...strange thing to do in front of us in our new place...but becca is pretty premiscious...then all the sudden the boyfriend turns the other direction to kiss another girl in the shower, i get closer to see who, and....its my wife. She looks nothing like my wife...infact it wasnt her it was some other girl but she was playing the role of my wife if that makes any sence...my wife is a brunette but this girl was blonde...anyway so i was of cource infuriated and pulled the guy from my shower and threw him in a choke hold threatening to kill him...not much happened after that...that dream doesnt have alot of importence except for the girl with blonde hair... ok so dream 2 isnt quite as long but theres a huge significant part. So im in new york i think in this dream...never been there before but anyway im with this girl in my dream...i never do really see her till the end but were just going through the city doing stuff not really sure. At one point we jumped on my crotch rocket and drove to a part of the city where there are alot of tall buildings and stuff. We go walking up a long street that must end up being 300ft above the ground sort of like a huge misplaced suspension bridge. She climbs out on a pole or something and is literally hanging like 300ft from certain death. She looks at me and smiles, then she tells me to climb out with her. I then notice her blonde hair and realise its the same girl who starred as my wife in the dream i had the night before! After she asks me to climb out i absolutly refused. Im not afraid of heights but im not dumb either. She keeps asking me to climb out with her, she was so persistant! Ive never had anyone persistantly tell me to do something like that in a dream. It was weird. Before going to be i told myself id become lucid as i do every night. Its like this girl knew i wanted to be lucid and she couldnt tell me i was dreaming but she was trying to lure me out to possibly fall and become lucid...its kinda creepy how persistant she was about me climbing out... these dreams were on 2 different days, not the same night. Is this girl a dream sign maybe? Did i lose a shot at being lucid? Im maybe more concerned with this girl. Iliterally feel like she has a mind of her own and shes not a subconcious generated doll...anyone else experience someone else being in your dreams like this?

[Ermac]

Well its basically just your mind, you think about lucid dream, something like this will eventually happened Has happened to me many times in different ways Eg. i had this guy in my dream explain to me i was dreaming and he proved it by spawning a gas station and then telling me i was lucid, lol but i didn't go lucid hehehe

[DavidGT650R]

Haha its funny how hard it is to become lucid even when the most obvious signs are there haha

[Mystycal]

Haha its funny how hard it is to become lucid even when the most obvious signs are there haha That is the reason I don't do reality checks, lol. In my experience, there has been no correlation between reality checks working/failing and attaining lucidity in my dream. Sometimes it's there, and others - it's just not. I'm strange like that :/

[Avalanche]

I think the way you think she is important or actively trying to make you lucid is because you already "know" she is trying to do that. In the same way you knew she can be trusted or it was normal for your M.i.law to get into a shower in front of you.