The fact that you have good awareness but no lucidity during your dreams leads me to believe that you're caring too much about what's happening during your dreams. If you care too much about what happens during your dreams, it keeps you from thinking critically during them. For example, if a monster came in your bedroom door, you would be more likely to become lucid if you were indifferent to it than if you screamed or otherwise placed a great amount of emphasis on the monster.

I think you should actively try remain an indifferent bystander rather than an active participant at night. Try to avoid the emotions that are clouding your ability to think critically.

I think this is why people often have their first lucid dream after quitting trying to have one. Their new indifference to what happens at night carries over into their dreams and allows them to think critically during them.