Hello all!

So, one of my recent goals has been surrounding doing some shadow work --investigating habits that I have and trying to release them within the lucid dream state. I became lucid in one dream and had a goal of generating a dream guide. Immediately when it didn't work, I went and found my neighbor who I have a secret crush on. Then this dream turns into which hasn't even been a big interest of mine. I always thought I'd use my lucidity for other things. It was like the energy was so strong, maybe I was losing lucidity, but yea.. the dream took a turn.

This led me to realize just because I'm lucid in a dream doesn't mean that I always will act outside of my habits. I'm seeing that the dream state, whether lucid or not, does show me those aspects of myself that are deep in my mind. I found it interesting that this motivation was stronger than the motivation to generate a dream guide, even though I've been rehearsing the whole dream guide thing for a while during my reality checks. I didn't even try multiple times. I just was like hm... oh well... let's find the neighbor and I didn't even plan on doing that at all. Anywhoo....

I wanted to go back into the dream state and ask my neighbor what he represents. I figured I could get a good answer and learn about the unconscious (subconscious?) habits that I clearly am trying to suppress in the waking state that showed up in this dream. So, it takes me about 4 lucid dreams to finally get back to my apartment and then find the neighbor. I ask him what he represents and he babbles about other things. So, I talk to him and say "Focus!" then, "What do you represent?" ... more babbling. He does tell me that he has always been interested in me, then asks me if I have any friends. (What a let down lol) I tell him I would never let my friends near him. He looks very disappointed so I decide to go outside and ask my subconscious. As I walk outside I can hear him singing and rapping. Whatever song he is singing becomes background music to my dream. I even start singing it myself. I go outside and fly up, still singing, enjoying myself. I land back on the ground then, I shout at the sky "What does my neighbor in this dream represent?" Leaves blows around and through the street. I wait... no answer....

The dream is about to end, but I yell "WAIT!!!" and rub my hands together. This makes the dream come back. I put one hand on my head and one hand on my stomach and say "Remove any attachments and bonds from men from my past" then I just repeat "Thank you thank you thank you thank you" until I wake up in my bed.


This isn't the first time I've asked the dream/my subconscious a question only to receive no answer. I have now started to use EFT (if anyone is familiar with this technique) in case I have/am starting to build some type of doubt that is affecting my ability to expect communication from my dream/subconscious.

I was wondering does anyone else have any experience asking the dream/subconscious questions to do self-help type work or get clarification about things in the waking state? Have you had issues or experience creating this type of communicative connection with the dream? I've always heard that people do this and it seems quite easy, but I suppose we all have differences in experience. I would love to get input from anyone here!

Thanks!