Good question.
This may actually have a 2-part solution: (Not that I'm an expert. Simply taking a stab at this one. Heh.)
Now, while awake, I think the most important thing for you to do is to come to a conscious peace with the event. It happened. It is in the past. We all do things that we aren't proud of, but it's in committing and learning from these acts that we grow into the person that we are. Come to terms with your own humanity, in that none of us are perfect. The fact that you feel guilt about the event shows a level of personal growth, displaying a recognition that what you did was wrong. You have learned from the experience, you simply haven't learned to let the experience fade away as just "another lesson learned." I think it would be nearly impossible to find that peace within yourself without completely coming to grips with that. To accept the past doesn't make you any less of a caring person. To accept and to forget are two different things.
While dreaming:
First I think it's important to establish this recurring dream as a dream sign. Remember - whenever you are reliving this event, you are dreaming. Be deligent to make this distinction, because lucidity will be your best way of dealing with the problem head-on. Once lucid, approach the event as if you were a student. Examine it. Embrace it. Realize that this event was a part of who you are, and that you have changed for the better since the last time it happened. Focus more on the positivity and personal growth that you've taken from the experience, and less on the negativity and all-consuming guilt that you felt back when the event actually happened.
Sooner or later it may help to take the power out of the experience. Much like any other nightmare, taking the impact out of it, and becoming more comfortable with it, is the best way to help the subconscious discard the experience as such a crucial element in your dreams.
Hope this helps. (let alone makes any sense. Haha.)
[Edit - But now that I've posted, I see that Raylin pretty much covered the same concepts. So I can't be That far off. Haha.)
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