Thread: How to avoid sexual distractions [TUT]

Originally Posted by Fableflame

lying on your belly actually helps you have a sexual dream..? never heard that before.

yes it is a really great position. A normal position actually. Get what I mean...? haha. I've never had this kind of dreams lying on my belly before though =/ don't worry I don't think I'm gay.

I have had a handful of sexual lucid dreams (no pun in there anywhere) and they did not involve sex-sex, but more of playing around, doing sexy things, and even that wakes me up... Now reading these comments, I just had a thought:
Why not just ask your dream sex partner to be, to wait a while and have sex when you are done doing other things, at the end of the dream when you wouldn't mind waking up anyway?!? Kind of ending the LD in a high note, so to speak.

Originally Posted by IdreamtofU

Why not just ask your dream sex partner to be, to wait a while and have sex when you are done doing other things, at the end of the dream when you wouldn't mind waking up anyway?!? Kind of ending the LD in a high note, so to speak.

this is what i do. whenever i am tempted in a dream, i turn it down and do cool stuff. then afterwards if there is another temptress (i like that word), i allow myself to succumb (there is a good one too) to the urge.

Try to summon a family member so that it would be too awkward...

I have a friend who stopped seeking sex in LDs because everytime he would have sex in a dream it would hurt his penis! He is a strange fellow.

Originally Posted by Dannon Oneironaut

I have a friend who stopped seeking sex in LDs because everytime he would have sex in a dream it would hurt his penis! He is a strange fellow.

Maybe is was having sex with something IRL that was hurting him. While sleeping.

Originally Posted by NightLife

Try to summon a family member so that it would be too awkward...

man I love that

This explains why I woke up durring my first LD; I tried to have lucid sex. But would the opposite be true, going a long time without sex or masturbation, then inducing a LD will allow for a sex dream? Thnks,- Alen

I have found that if I'm haveing lots of sexual tension dreams about a particular DC, if I just screw them the tension goes away. The next time I see them in a dream I won't feel the sexual tension and will be able to focus on other things.

I also have found that having specific goals to do during LDs that I'm EXCITED about (that is key) it is easier for me to resist sexual distractions.

Yes, I have the sexual distraction problem almost every time I have an LD. Over the last 6 nights, I've had 3 Ld's (yay!) but I spent the whole time having sex. This is not a bad thing, because I still get the good experience, and I don't wake up. However, I feel that masturbating before bed does not help to relieve sexual distractions. In fact, I am a pretty addicted masturbator, so when I went a day without masturbation, I had an LD.

For some reason, I almost never have sex in my dreams. Especially lucid dreams. My dream world is sort of creepy and unpredictably strange. Two things that don't really put me in the mood.

For the past few months, I've actually been trying to have more sex in my dreams. It has been fun, but a little strange. Weird stuff always happens, like succubus attacks, painful gender transformations and bizarre sex toy adventures. I now remember why I don't normally have lucid sex. I'll stick to the real thing. It is much more enjoyable.

Originally Posted by Robot_Butler

For some reason, I almost never have sex in my dreams. Especially lucid dreams. My dream world is sort of creepy and unpredictably strange. Two things that don't really put me in the mood.

For the past few months, I've actually been trying to have more sex in my dreams. It has been fun, but a little strange. Weird stuff always happens, like succubus attacks, painful gender transformations and bizarre sex toy adventures. I now remember why I don't normally have lucid sex. I'll stick to the real thing. It is much more enjoyable.

Transformations happen to me all the time and it is SO annoying. If I look away for too long the hot girl will often become a guy. Then I gotta start looking for a new person. Once, the girl became plastic wrap.

The last sex dream I had, I switched places with my girlfriend. Somehow we both ended up being women. It was like my girlfriend was having sex with a clone of herself, and my consciousness was switching between the two of them. Weird.

Originally Posted by quattykitty

lol as ive said before on another thread... this site should be called SEX 101 ;]

Totally agree. DV is a horny, horny community.

Originally Posted by Sandform

I have a friend who stopped seeking sex in LDs because everytime he would have sex in a dream it would hurt his penis! He is a strange fellow.

Maybe is was having sex with something IRL that was hurting him. While sleeping.

This made me laugh. You guys are so weird.

There is a way to avoid this. Masterbate before you sleep and you will sleep like an angel with minimal sexuality.

IMJ

I don't think Ive ever become lucid while dreaming of sex. I must be missing out on something.

Why have sex in dreams? Seems like it would be annoying more than anything.

I masterbated before in a dream as a result of sexual arousal in the lucid dream but that was right after becoming lucid.

IMJ

Slept on the couch on my stomach last night, and it was a little more sexual than usual.

I guess the stomach position really does bring more sexual... dreams.

Originally Posted by CaLeB-

Slept on the couch on my stomach last night, and it was a little more sexual than usual.

I guess the stomach position really does bring more sexual... dreams.

Pressure on your groin from sleeping on your stomach probably is to blame for that.

Hm yea I always sleep on my stomach and I've had about 4 sex-related dreams in my entire life. Maybe it's different for girls (the laying on the stomach thing), but I think it's more that I just see dreaming as for things I can't actually do, sex isn't even a factor when I think about dreaming possibilities. And that has seemed to work. After joining this site it sometimes floats across my mind as a possibility when I first become lucid, but then things like "control the sun" "control fire" "fly" etc. just sound much more fun.

Dredging this back up to offer my two cents

I would think it would be different for girls. Your clitoris isn't in the right spot to get pressure on it when you sleep on your stomach.

Yea, true. Still, I think it's more mental than physical. I just make it unacceptable because I don't want to "waste" dreams, and so it never happens. Or who knows, maybe it has something to do with hormones and we're not even aware lol

Originally Posted by ninja9578

Someone asked for a tutorial on this, so here it is. I almost never get sidetracked by sex in lucid dream, there are temptations, but usually fleeting and I forget about them as soon as I shun them.

First off: the reason that many dreams are extremely sexual is because any psychologist with an expertise in dreams will tell you that during REM sleep, males usually have an erection. An erect penis leads to sexual thoughts, there is not way to avoid this.

I don't think thats it ninja(not that i dont respect your opinion, but heres mine), i think everyone just likes having sex, and when you can go into your mind into a new reality with no real consequences. Still be awake and control that reality, well who can really resist. haha.

Sexual tension is something that builds up. The longer you go without sex or masturbation, the more sexual your dreams will become. If you are planning on trying to induce a lucid dream on a particular night, have sex or masturbate. Masturbation during your WBTB will combat the sexual temptations that your mind throws at you.

Now once you are in a dream you have to remember that this is an opportunity to do everything that you can never do in real life. Sex is real, dream sex is never as good as the real thing anyway. If you're a virgin you may be tempted to try sex in your dreams, however, since you have no experiences with sex, your mind has to try and figure things out from what it has. This requires some thinking power, if you think too hard, you will wake up. This is why often sex dreams cause you to wake up.

Id have to agree with everything you said here. Yes masterbation before going into a lucid dream helps much. (but i still cant help being a little dirty)

Even if you ignore all of the temptations that you encounter in your dream, you subconscious always wants to have sex, it's part of your ego. It will constantly bombard you with opportunities, you have to muster up the strength to ignore these. My favourite method of avoiding sexual desires in dreams is do eliminate the dream characters all together. You can either fly somewhere more private or simply kill the characters that are around you.

I don't know how true this holds, normaly when im in a lucid dream, im the one who wants to have sex haha. My SC is the one who is saying no, not me.

Id also have to say, only kill the characters you find attractive. If your attracted to both sexes, you have a problem then

The best advice is to simply avoid characters of the opposite sex though.

Which i just typed haha

but as i said if your bi sexual you got a problem.

Masturbation is your best bet. Or sex with your partner.

Me being a virgin, i find it very hard to go into a lucid dream and not want to have sex with the females there hehe. If i try to hard i do wake up of course. But i have the ability that once i wake up from a lucid dream, i can lay right back down and go right back into lucid dreaming. So if i try to "have my way" with someone, and it doesn't work. I just move onto doing something else in my lucid dreams.

Maybe some of what i said will help some of you guys maybe not, but good luck anyways.