Thread: Whould it be possible to find the girl of your dreams?

I actually wanna try this when I dream. I feel really lonely at school. Nearly every girl thinks I'm like shit because, of things which have happened in the past and I'm damn well fed up with it. I really want to find someone who loves me for who I am. I think that lucid dreaming might be close enough to achieveing this. I just hope that it doesn't sound like I'm a saddo cos I'm not!

So you want to have a relationship with a girl...in your dreams?

Yh, do you think it would work?

I don't know. Dreams are dreams. They are not reality. Sure you can try to LD about the same girl every night, but I don't see how this is any different than having an imaginary friend.

its not. But it would just have to do for the time being, at least until I get outta this school.

if your talking about having a relationship with a dream girl then well, i suggest you find a real girl no offense cause its MUCH more healthy mentally to have a relationship with something that is real and not imagined

everyone has trouble with the opposite sex, know how many girls say their gonna quit guys? know how many guys say the same thing about girls? they always go back lol

anyways how old are you? if your under 18 then don't worry too much about getting a girlfriend, enjoy yourself, go out with friends and youll eventually meet a nice girl, good luck

believe me im not DISCOURAGING LD sex or w/e but im just saying, dont RELY entirely on a dream girl, you could get so attached you wouldnt want a real girl, heres my example

if you replace real women with dream women and you prefer dream women, then you will ignore real women, when in reality, you should ignore the dream girl and take the real thing

I'm 15. Your right, I just feel lonely but, it should work for now right?

Originally Posted by phonix

I actually wanna try this when I dream. I feel really lonely at school. Nearly every girl thinks I'm like shit because, of things which have happened in the past and I'm damn well fed up with it. I really want to find someone who loves me for who I am. I think that lucid dreaming might be close enough to achieveing this. I just hope that it doesn't sound like I'm a saddo cos I'm not!

Saddo? That's what I mean about people who persue lucid dreaming...they think they are being pathetic by persuing something that's not real. U should change Ur attitude about it or it may become a limiting factor to what U want to achieve. Since U already have a purpose for becoming lucid in the dream....it should be successful for U because it will help greatly if U have an ultimate goal for using it, means U can't simply give up without putting up a fight to achieve what U want....

IMJ

BIG HINT(literately)



WHILE YOUR DREAMING DON'T REPLACE AN ACTUAL GIRL YOU KNOW IN REAL LIFE WITH YOUR IDEA OF WHO THEY REALLY ARE...


I've done this and am currently trying to recover from some personal issues . But I do think it's possible to find someone you love from a dream in real life. AND having a Lucid dream girlfriend is unhealthy, because in your waking life you will feel an emptiness every day that you cant fill. It feels like your just out of reach of the person you love and you cant hold them in your arms. (0r other things jk)

Just wanted to add a bit to what Elwood said. I'm not much of an LDer yet, but I am a fairly experienced psychonaut and from the things that I've learned through that in conjunction w/ RL, I would have to definitely warn against trying to sustain a relationship with someone that you created for yourself, unless you're familiar enough with real people to give her plenty of defects. Otherwise, you'll find that no girl IRL will ever possibly measure up to the standards of that perfect dream girl of yours and live in a state of perpetual disappointment with your RL relationships. Which, of course = mucho no bueno.