Lucid Sex

**hootman** · 03-15-2008 03:03 AM

Ive had about 3 good lucid dreams (not counting the 5 second ones) and I have things I want to do (go to another planet, fly, etc.) but my mind turns to sex. I cant even controll it, I tell myself every morning before i try to WILD that I would have lucid sex. I wake up dazed, 5 seconds later I am hitting myself because my mind went stright to sex. Does this happen to a lot of people, ever go away? Its really annoying.

**Confused** · 03-15-2008 04:04 AM

iv had LDs for a year and iv still barely explored this "world". as soon as i notice that im lucid, i start having lucid sex. kinda anoying for me aswell ,cuz theres so much other stuff id like to do, but im so damn horny when i realize im lucid dreaming i cant help it lol

**Soldier** · 03-15-2008 04:31 AM

LOL this was my biggest problem and am kinda still working on it. right in your dream you rush to a girl to have sex right? i did this and my lucid ended right at the moment by excitment

i tried it in my next lucid and the same dam thing happened.

agian, so i've devised a plan to get both of what i want adventure and sex. first i plan my dream before hand and if im luckly enough to get lucid i do my goals and when i feel the dream is going to end soon i go find a girl and end the dream with her.

my conclusion with my mini experiment is that excitement will wake you up and sex = excitement. so im quessing keeping it cool while having sex will prevent you from waking up but the hard part is keeping calm.

**Yuki** · 03-15-2008 04:32 AM

That's pretty weird. The first thing that jumps to my mind is flying and exploring. Also meeting ghosts... XD

**kaeraz** · 03-15-2008 04:37 AM

I've had this same problem. It's getting better, but the urge is typically pretty strong when I first become lucid. I advise doing auto suggestion that's along the lines of sex. Like, tell yourself you'll see a girl and start making out with her first or have her give you strip show. Just something that buys you time while you're lucid so you realize that you can wander off and do other things, then come back for the goods later.

**Soldier** · 03-15-2008 04:43 AM

its quite hard to say no kaeraz. But i do agree with you if you want a longer lucid staying away from your dream girl/guy is your best bet. but alas i bet anything ill fall under the temptation in my next lucid.

**DreamingGhost** · 03-15-2008 05:55 AM

I have this problem as well. Some times when I am lucid if I can not think of any tasks I want o work on my mind always reverts to oh I wan to have sex. It is hard thing to pull away from since for some reason the mind defaults to it. But the more you resist the easier it gets at least for me this is the case. And I have notice the last time that happened, I immediately thought of the task I wanted to try and told my self to quit thinking of such mundane things when I wanted to do more lol. So in a way it has become a semi-good thing for me.

Anna

**Vex Kitten** · 03-15-2008 05:58 AM

Next time your lucid, immediately make all your dream characters look like this:

Maybe that'll help turn you off to lucid sex.
And if it doesn't at least I'll get a good laugh out of it.

**hootman** · 03-15-2008 06:06 AM

Originally Posted by Vex Kitten

Next time your lucid, immediately make all your dream characters look like this:

Maybe that'll help turn you off to lucid sex.
And if it doesn't at least I'll get a good laugh out of it.

Ahh Vex Kitten...that was great. I was laughing pretty hard for awhile

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Also I have trouble remembering what to do. Like if i want to fly I just forget... Does that happen to everyone?

**analyst** · 03-15-2008 06:52 PM

i have to agree with yuki. i mean, i'd love to do the sex thing too... lol. but what i mean is that when i get into the LD itself, my mind is so far away from sex. it is more often the topic of a non-LD for some reason. in an LD i am so amazed at the new awareness. maybe just a newbie reaction? =)

**hootman** · 03-16-2008 03:16 AM

how long did it take u guys to stop?

**Inferne** · 03-16-2008 03:43 AM

I'm surprised so many people have this problem, I thought I was alone. Most of my LDs consist of me trying to have sex (even if their are no DCs around, I will go out of my way to get a girl to appear) and then I always wake up. I don't even want to have sex in LDs, because there is much more important stuff I rather do in one, but it's what I always think of doing first :\

**kaeraz** · 03-16-2008 03:57 AM

Maybe you should masturbate or have sex before you go to bed? That might reduce your need for sexual stimulation in the dream. Also, set a goal of something you want to do in your dream. Think about it periodically through the day and especially before you go to sleep.

Commitment's a two-way street!

**Inferne** · 03-16-2008 03:58 AM

Originally Posted by kaeraz

Maybe you should masturbate or have sex before you go to bed? That might reduce your need for sexual stimulation in the dream. Also, set a goal of something you want to do in your dream. Think about it periodically through the day and especially before you go to sleep.

Commitment's a two-way street!

Well, I usually go to bed pretty late and at that time I'm too tired to masturbate. However, I masturbate once or twice a day- how much sexual stimulation do I need??!!

**hootman** · 03-16-2008 04:10 AM

But it says you have had 0 lucid dreams how would you know... (and it says it was updated today)

**kaeraz** · 03-16-2008 04:14 AM

Originally Posted by Inferne

Well, I usually go to bed pretty late and at that time I'm too tired to masturbate. However, I masturbate once or twice a day- how much sexual stimulation do I need??!!

Heh...well that's contingent on a number of factors. Assuming you're a young adult male, you could tell me five times a day and I wouldn't be surprised if it still wasn't enough.

But I suppose if you do it right before you go to sleep, that might help. Or maybe if you did it during a WBTB? I'd test this out myself, but I'm not a dude and I don't want to give you guys inaccurate results. I'm not sure how this varies from male to female.

**Inferne** · 03-16-2008 04:14 AM

Originally Posted by hootman

But it says you have had 0 lucid dreams how would you know... (and it says it was updated today)

I guess I worded my sig wrong. I meant to say STARTING today, this is how many LDs I had. I forgot that "As of" meant up to this time, so I will change it.

**Soldier** · 03-16-2008 04:27 AM

Orginnaly posted by hootman
how long did it take u guys to stop?

do you mean to stop having sex in a dream?

**Inferne** · 03-16-2008 04:34 AM

Originally Posted by Soldier

do you mean to stop having sex in a dream?

I think he meant how long did it take for you to not have sex dominating your thoughts while LDing.

**viking-45** · 03-16-2008 04:52 AM

happens to me , but the more you masturbate the less this happens because your mind is loosing the desperate desire to have sex each time you masturbate,

so shake the banana

**Out of the Blue** · 03-16-2008 06:44 AM

Lol, my LDs usually go to sex, and I almost always wake up as soon as it does.

And I often masturbate before bed.

Interesting experiment though. I didn't masturbate for 10 days and had zero sexual dreams. But as soon as I gave in I did.

>.>

**Inferne** · 03-16-2008 01:45 PM

Well, I tried masturbating before bed like kaeraz said, and I had a DILD! And I didn't think about sex at all during it

**Kael Seoras** · 03-16-2008 10:00 PM

Hm, this is like what I've heard about being drunk, you do things on impulse (often sexy things) and you can't even help it, you might even be thinking "why am I doing this?!" and you do it anyway.

When you're drunk you're less lucid right?

So in your lucid dreams try becoming more lucid I guess.

I hope this won't be a problem for me

**Vex Kitten** · 03-17-2008 04:32 PM

All this talk of masturbating made me think of the times in a lucid dream that I had an orgasm without needing a DC.

In one dream I created a control panel with varying levels of orgasm strength on it. Press a button and presto... instant orgasm.

In another I wanted to see if I could have an orgasm by willing it and it worked.

So, maybe instead of looking for a DC to get with, just will yourself a few orgasms and be on with the dream. Unless you absolutely need that person to person contact. (or person to people contact for the freakier ones out there)