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      and how do u make ur own thread im still stuck on that???

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      Quote Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant View Post
      Wow. You must realize that this is quite unhealthy, right? It's even a little bit frightening. I would seek psychiatric help ASAP, for your own sanity, and for the sanity of the people around you.

      I've had dreams where I've had children, and I've woken up feeling very empty, like I was missing something, because I knew they didn't exist. I haven't forgotten how those dreams made me feel... but I'm not sad about them or anything because I'm planning on having kids in the future anyway. Who knows, maybe your "fate" is to meet a girl named Sarah in real life.

      I don't think the connection between her name and that song is interesting. In fact, that being your favorite song perfectly explains her name.

      Anyway, it sounds like you are deteriorating psychologically, and you gotta seek help. Lucid dreaming is supposed to enhance your waking life, not destroy it.
      I slept on this post, and you know, I think it might of helped me take a step back and look at things in perspective a bit...

      Oh, I didn't want to get into why I thought the connection was interesting (I though the post was walking the line of 'too long; don't read'), but it's a song about the love of your life being abruptly and unexpectedly lost. I'd go in depth but that's another topic for another day.

      Quote Originally Posted by MrBeelzy View Post
      I have experienced love in dreams in some form. There will be that person, the embodiment of everything you want, your dream girl or guy as it were and it will be spectacular. However real the experience will feel, once you wake up, or attain lucidity you should realize that it is all a construction of your own mind.
      And I did, and honestly at the time I didn't care a whole lot. And hey, for a while it seemed to be working out okay.

      Sure the emotions will feel real enough, but the fact is that it is not. Real relationships, with other individuals might not be perfect, they take work, but overall they are far more rewarding. It is not love you have with a dream character, it is masturbatory (narcissistic even) to act as if it were.

      I don't know if professional help is in order, I think you just need to acknowledge that it is not real, and find something else to occupy your mind. Hang out with real people, immerse yourself in the real relationships you have, see the difference, and forget about your fake one.
      I'm one to contest the use of the word 'real'. Personally, I think 'real' includes what a noun means to a person. Father Christmas was undeniably real to you at some point, right? Even though I inadvertently made her up, she still had great effect on me.

      You, know, my problem my have started when I began treating her as concrete.

      Be glad that you have the ability to become lucid, and incubate and bring out specific characters (and I can only assume locations and other stuff). Everyone hits dry periods, it will come back, but hopefully by then you will be over this.
      Thanks, I'll try and do that. =)

      Quote Originally Posted by imj View Post
      I was afraid of this happening if I got too close a relationship with a DC. Anyway, sounds like you need a reboot. Have you watched the movie The Good Night?. It is exactly what your lucid dreaming is about....watch it and it will give you your lucid dream.

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      I haven't, but I should probably check it out.

      Quote Originally Posted by Soldier View Post
      wow what a story, yea I agree with Mes Tarrant on you need help. the biggest problem is sarah is gonna be your perfect girl no matter what since you made her and you will never find a girl like that in real life the kicker is then you will try to find your dreamgirl and never find a girl as perfect as sarah in real life.
      Huh... that is worrisome, isn't it.

      so for the sake of relationship I would break up with sarah and avoid her from now on.
      Yeah... this is something I decided on last night. I just don't know If I'd bring myself to do it, as much as it'd make things easier for me.

      Man... this is really frustrating. v_v

      Quote Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant View Post
      Yes and I would really try to stop referring to "Sarah" as an individual to "end a relationship with" and whatnot. MrBeelzy is right... it's nothing short of narcissism. This DC is not a separate entity from yourself - it IS yourself that you are obsessing over.
      This is where I'm stuck. I hate referring to her as just a dream character or even just as myself because she meant a lot to me; even if I hadn't fallen in love with her, she was the most vibrant and defined DC I've ever come across.

      Do you have other types of issues that keep you from socializing with real people?
      I'm not entirely sure how to answer this... yes, I have friends, yes, they're good friends. But working with other people, at times, really doesn't feel like my strong suit. I am very shy by nature.

      Quote Originally Posted by LunaticBaGuu View Post
      maplestory or runescape anybody????? which would you think is better or worst....??????
      answer please......................
      MapleStory - only MMORPG worth playing. Though I don't think this is *quite* the place for that question.

      Quote Originally Posted by LunaticBaGuu View Post
      and how do u make ur own thread im still stuck on that???
      Click on the "New Topic" button in the forum you wish to post in.

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      Ahh that brings back memories of characters fell in love with.
      not as extreme as you because they were only in 1 dream.
      I did feel empty when I woke up though.

      Oh and don't be a RuneEscapist
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      Quote Originally Posted by LunaticBaGuu View Post
      maplestory or runescape anybody????? which would you think is better or worst....??????
      answer please......................
      maple = better, but they both suck imo. only mmo i liked was city of heroes, but u have to pay and there are much better games to play anyways.

      BACK ON TOPIC!

      Seriously, you can't break up with yourself. I think you should just try to forget about her completely. If she shows up then don't even say anything to her just make her go away. What should probably prevent you from seeing her most is getting a real girlfriend (I don't mean that as an insult in the least).

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      I see you're at least attempting to think about this problem, so props to you! I would still highly recommend seeing a professional about this. They can really help you sort things out. Is there any particular factor stopping you from going like.. right now? Money, perhaps?

      BTW, mind if I ask you your age?

      Quote Originally Posted by Prismriver View Post
      This is where I'm stuck. I hate referring to her as just a dream character or even just as myself because she meant a lot to me; even if I hadn't fallen in love with her, she was the most vibrant and defined DC I've ever come across.
      I know it's hard... but the fact of the matter is she isn't real. She doesn't exist. There is no Sarah. You sound like you are wasting your life.. completely, utterly wasting it. I know we put a lot of emphasis on how awesome dreams are, but waking life is amazing too, probably more so.

      If you think you're in love with a figment of your imagination, then you really don't know what love is.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant View Post
      I see you're at least attempting to think about this problem, so props to you! I would still highly recommend seeing a professional about this. They can really help you sort things out. Is there any particular factor stopping you from going like.. right now? Money, perhaps?


      If you think you're in love with a figment of your imagination, then you really don't know what love is.
      I really don't want to offend you, Tarrant, but this is not a serious problem. Prismriver, you are not crazy, nor are you narcissistic. This has happened to me on a less extreme example, and the feeling does go away if you don't focus so much on it. Yes, it is completely normal to feel like you are heartbroken. Yes, the feelings you have now probably are the same as if you were in a real relationship. People will probably say this is not "love", but do they know what "love" is? Sorry to ruin the magic, but it isn't magic, but boring old neurotransmitters. Here is a good article on the subject http://discovermagazine.com/2003/may...earchterm=love

      In short, your brain is releasing oxytocin in the dopamine sectors of your brain, making you feel awesome. Same thing happens with a lot of different events that make you feel good. When you don't see this dream character, the oxytocin stops and you feel bad. Basically, you should probably find a more reliable source of the feel goods, like a real relationship, a rewarding hobby, or heroin. No need to see a psychiatrist.
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      I disagree with you on the level of seriousness of this problem. On the other hand, I of course admit that I am not in a position to evaluate his state of being (and neither are you).

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      I am not a psychologist but I do study psychology in school and I am citing a valid article about the subject. In the ranks of forum banter, that makes me a certified expert! haha, but seriously, telling someone they are mentally ill without any apparent knowledge (correct me if I'm wrong) other than "hunches" is morally irresponsible.
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      That sucks.

      I can't really say much more.

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      Did I use the words "mentally ill?"

      I believe this person needs a kick in the rear to start moving on from this character, and that is all.

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