Thread: How bittersweet is lucid love, securely mentally binding

Wow. You must realize that this is quite unhealthy, right? It's even a little bit frightening. I would seek psychiatric help ASAP, for your own sanity, and for the sanity of the people around you.

I've had dreams where I've had children, and I've woken up feeling very empty, like I was missing something, because I knew they didn't exist. I haven't forgotten how those dreams made me feel... but I'm not sad about them or anything because I'm planning on having kids in the future anyway. Who knows, maybe your "fate" is to meet a girl named Sarah in real life.

I don't think the connection between her name and that song is interesting. In fact, that being your favorite song perfectly explains her name.

Anyway, it sounds like you are deteriorating psychologically, and you gotta seek help. Lucid dreaming is supposed to enhance your waking life, not destroy it.

Touching (there would be sarcasm if you could hear my voice over the internet)

Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

I would seek psychiatric help ASAP, for your own sanity, and for the sanity of the people around you.

I have experienced love in dreams in some form. There will be that person, the embodiment of everything you want, your dream girl or guy as it were and it will be spectacular. However real the experience will feel, once you wake up, or attain lucidity you should realize that it is all a construction of your own mind.

Sure the emotions will feel real enough, but the fact is that it is not. Real relationships, with other individuals might not be perfect, they take work, but overall they are far more rewarding. It is not love you have with a dream character, it is masturbatory (narcissistic even) to act as if it were.

I don't know if professional help is in order, I think you just need to acknowledge that it is not real, and find something else to occupy your mind. Hang out with real people, immerse yourself in the real relationships you have, see the difference, and forget about your fake one.

Be glad that you have the ability to become lucid, and incubate and bring out specific characters (and I can only assume locations and other stuff). Everyone hits dry periods, it will come back, but hopefully by then you will be over this.

Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

Wow. You must realize that this is quite unhealthy, right? It's even a little bit frightening. I would seek psychiatric help ASAP, for your own sanity, and for the sanity of the people around you.

I've had dreams where I've had children, and I've woken up feeling very empty, like I was missing something, because I knew they didn't exist. I haven't forgotten how those dreams made me feel... but I'm not sad about them or anything because I'm planning on having kids in the future anyway. Who knows, maybe your "fate" is to meet a girl named Sarah in real life.

I don't think the connection between her name and that song is interesting. In fact, that being your favorite song perfectly explains her name.

Anyway, it sounds like you are deteriorating psychologically, and you gotta seek help. Lucid dreaming is supposed to enhance your waking life, not destroy it.

I disogree, it's just a dream girl, nothing more, nothing less. And maybe he chooses to be with this person (this DC) throughout his life (which is doubtful) who's to say that would deteriorate him psycologically, if anything I will do the same when I master lucid dreaming, sure it's not a real person in the dream but DC's can be very real, and seem to think independently.

I'd way reather be with a DC I love (implying I can see them anytime, with lucid mastery) then a real person I am in some casual relationship with. (and why not both at the same time)

Prismriver, just adding to the voices here saying you're not crazy. it's happened to me before. i was about your age. over the years it turned from a relationship to an understanding. i realized it's not a real person but the embodyment of all the qualities i would love in a mate. (as was said here already.) so i studied and wrote exactly what it was about this fictional person i loved. not just outer beauty. i listed the things that she loved. among them were writing, gray skies, oil paints, dreams, simplicity, spirituality.

obviously we can't meet this exact person. there will always be qualities we don't expect when we find someone. some are surprisingly good, some annoy us, and hopefully we can adjust and look at things from a new perspective. still, you don't want a grinding relationship. it is good to have a list of things you appreciate and love. the list tells a story because it outlines the person you want to share your life with. we don't need to be overly picky. but it is good to be a selective. as we grow, we learn about our needs and about ourself as a person. we all like to be appreciated and recognized for our personal qualities. we want to be in a relationship where this happens. our true soul is seen by the other. we don't want to be in a relationship where we always feel like something is missing because the other person doesn't seem to even really know us. for instance, if we are a spiritual type person, we want to be in a relationship were this kind of thing is recognized and appreciated.

this dream character represents everything you love and appreciate at this time. but you're still young. so the things you love and appreciate will grow and change. your list will change. but as you grow and change, it is good to be aware of these, and the reasons why you feel that way. so use it as a tool, and think about the reason this dream character even came along. what about her do you love? what does this say about you? about the type of person you want to live with?

we don't necessarily need a dream character to answer these questions. but for us dreamer romantics, we generally dream about love constantly, either asleep or daydreaming.

This is going to sound weird ... but have you asked her what she thinks about it?

This could be your dreamguide. Nothing wrong with falling in love with her tbh. I fall in love instantaniously each time I see a pretty girl. Having a dream about love doesn't make you crazy. This dreamguide showed you a new possible future, and how it could make you feel. This dreamguide showed you how you would feel if you met your dreamgirl. Now you know how it feels, you will search for that feeling everywhere, because, unsubcounsciously, thats what you really need, and thats what your dreamguide is showing you. This is something you need in both worlds tho, not just in the dreamworld.