Thread: Convincing friends to learn to LD

I've gotten 3 referrals since November, all of them real life friends. They all kind of gave up on it after a while. A couple of my friends are somewhat interested, and listen about it (several mornings, I could be found writing my dreams down on loose leaf paper until I could get to a computer) but never really wanted to learn.

Which leads us to a conclusion that the curious and those who are deeply motivated to learn will search us out anyways. Like many other things, I personally think lucid dreaming can be considered a form of calling. You don't convert people or lure them to try it. Of course subtle advertising is always good, but LD is still seen as supernatural or anti-religious in some circles. Maybe telling that it is purely explainable by normal logic and scientific approach would do the greatest trick.

Biggest problem is the lazyness of people and the need for immediate success ( read : impatience )

Damn our modern society.

some people just want to rest their mind, it is understandable.

Yes! two of my best friends are now in the club!! my mother had a couple of LDs aswell I preach it to everybody i meet and most people are interested though they are rarely patient enough to actually keep it going, but the reward is worth all effort! as you know fellow dreamers

Anytime I mention it to somone in depth in real life they have a LD or two withing the next two weeks without thinking about it at all. i kinda makes me dad that i havent had one lol. Literally I've gotten 6 people to have LDs by talking about how i feel about them.

whenever I'm with my friends I make them reality check whenever I do, just to hopefully induce a random one for them. because I know once they experience it, there's no going back.

Originally Posted by MiguelHombree

because I know once they experience it, there's no going back.

In fact, many do have lucid dreams when they try LD for a while, but after they notice that they were flukes and it takes practice, they start losing interest.

Originally Posted by Unelias

Which leads us to a conclusion that the curious and those who are deeply motivated to learn will search us out anyways. Like many other things, I personally think lucid dreaming can be considered a form of calling. You don't convert people or lure them to try it.

Agree with this completely.

I guess it's like if one of my friends tried to get me to take up Origami. Simple fact is, it's never going to happen, no matter how much they sell it to me as fun.

I WISH I could convince my brother to give it a go. He has suffered from horrible nightmares for most of his adult life (he was first on the scene at a brutal drunk-driving boating accident which none of the boat's occupants survived back when he was in his early 20s) and has suffered from depression and a tendency to "over-medicate" with alcohol before bedtime as a result.

... I've talked to him in the past about keeping a dream journal and trying to tackle his nightmares head on, "and by opposing, end them" (thanks Will) but I think he's just too afraid to examine his dreams too closely, for fear of what he may find.

Any suggestions on how I could reassure him that this would HELP him with his nightmares, as opposed to make them worse?

Originally Posted by Unelias

Which leads us to a conclusion that the curious and those who are deeply motivated to learn will search us out anyways.

I totally agree.. it takes a certain kind of person to train him/herself to LD, and that kind of person will probably naturally discover it.

I have tried, however, with some friends that seem like they would be good at lucid dreaming and be able to work hard for it. It turned out I was wrong, though.. :/