This is basically a DILD but fuck it. SOMEONE MIGHT HAVE CREATED THIS BEFORE! BUT I CAME WITH THIS ON MY OWN!
This technique consists of forcing a nightmare. "But why a nightmare?" Because in a nightmare it's easier to recognize you're dreaming. In a normal dream everything is okay, you have some surreal stuff and normal stuff. But in a nightmare you usually see monsters, darkness and creepy things and that triggers FEAR. And if that FEAR continues to be triggered in your dreams, you'll be able to recognize it. I'm not the best in explaining stuff sorry.

Before we jump in what you have to do, I need to tell you this. It does work! But it probably won't work the first time, unless the nightmare is strong, if you NILD every night in a week or two you'll be able to make it work! When I was 8 I had played Silent Hill 2, and it scared me A LOT, like really a fucking LOT! Then I had nightmares every night and in a week I was able to get lucid and control myself in it. I just didn't know I could change it. About 2 weeks of having nightmares of SH2 I was able to wake myself up by forcing my eyes to open, and from then on I was able to do that. Last week I read some creepy pastas, watched a horror movie and played Silent Hill 2. And I had a nightmare! I didn't even care about what was going on I just knew I was lucid, I RCed and transformed it into a nice LD. Okay now that I cleared some stuff out lets go!

This method can depend on your personality. Example: You're scared of clowns.
Watch clown horror movies. 10 Scariest Horror Movie Clowns IMDb: Clown Horror Movies - a list by nagy-attila-122-61455 10 Most Terrifying Clowns in Horror Movies
Read some clown creepypastas The Closet of Clowns - Creepypasta Wiki - Wikia Birthday Clown - Creepypasta Wiki - Wikia Clown in the Window - Creepypasta Wiki - Wikia
And other related stuff
It's certainly not the best thing to do because if you have too much fear you probably won't be able to sleep. But if you're desperate to LD try that.
Get my point? Use your own fear as an advantage to lucid dreaming and that's it.