to me when i dream, its like im just watching a movie and i cant control anything. i KNOW im in a dream, but then i dont actually know. it sounds confusing but i think you know what i mean. but then last night i couldn't control anything in my dream, but then i was driving my friends subaru, i could control when i changed gears in his manual but that was it. how do i be able to control all aspects of my dream? not just little less important things. or i guess im asking, how do i become fully lucid? can someone explain a reality check?

sorry for being the ultimate newbie. thanks though