Just an fyi. Sleep paralysis is a disorder. What you are experiencing is REM atonia and it's perfectly normal and certainly nothing to be afraid of. As far as dream control goes, I know how you feel. I have a massive sex drive in dreams too. Dream control is as much an art, as lucid dreaming itself is. Practice makes perfect and all that. You seem to be id dominated in the dream world. The trick is to allow your ego to be dominant. This will require a great degree of self control both in waking and dream life. As for REM atonia, the trick is to not pay attention to it. Its a sign post. Notice it briefly for directions to the dream world, then be on your way. Finally, I want to congratulate you on being able to WILD straight from going to bed. I've only done this twice and both occasions didn't last very long. S