Welcome Rosemary. So let me get this right, you have lucid dreams, but no dream contorl. hmm. Ive never had trouble waking up. When you want to wake up make sure you relaly really belive that you will. If you have any doubt at all, it may not work. trey going through a door that will bring you inot yoru real life. or think of some creative method for waking. Jumping off a building maby? Have you tired any of these?