yeah thanks star. No Im totally naturall Lder I know im dreaming straight away. It is great because it can be fun I often had really bad nightmares at the age of about 4/5 and I dont know how I learnt it I just remember having a really bad dream and telling myself I want to wake up, and I did, later at about 8 or 9 I realised if I can wake myself up I must know im dreaming and started to experiment inside my dreams like if i was being chased by a monster Id change it to something else as time passed my ability grew and grew and now i have utter controll.I really want to find a use for my ability though other than just to have fun/play out scenarios etc so thats why I used it to try and get over my sister in law/ grandad and dads deaths. Its strange though because if someone is ill i always get a sign in my dreams that there going to pass - normally I see a type of heart monitor flat lining and not long afterward (matter of days in 2 cases) it happens. (freaky isnt it) I dont have any other psychic ability other than that and I cant ever dare use that ability- people thought i was completely mental when at 9 i told them my grandad would die the next day. And it REALLY upsett them (he was sick though and in hospital so maybe im just dreaming of the inevetable) other than that i want to learn how to use my dream to help everday life in somewayor maybe even look into the spiritual side of things I have had 2 OBEs so am wanting to delve realy deep. hoping im at the right place. thanx star x