Thread: DEPRESSION

uhh. they need to just snap out of it. i dont know of anything you can tell them thats going to make them feel better. when ever i get depressed i always just try to find stuff i like about people... just support them and let them know you're there if they want to talk, complain, share... whatever. or you could get them some tail... that works too.

drinking doesn't help! my friend broke up with his girlfriend... he went on a five day bender... he tried to kill himself with a wooden salad spoon. then when that didnt work he tried to run into traffic... he passed out on his way outside... but hes over it now.

I have had touches of pretty bad depression throughout college. The best thing you can do for a friend with depression is to giving them something to do. Most depression comes from overthinking bad thoughts or overfocusing on bad emotions. The main problem is that the person with depression is living too internally without living externally. Or if they seem to be living externally enough, they're really just putting on the character people expect them to be. Often times in the past I would try to drown my sorrows in weed or alcohol. It doesn't usually work. Every once in a while it can be really nice since it relieves stress. And if it's in a social context and not too excessive - i think it helps the person with depression to get out of their shell a bit. But if it becomes habitual, it just digs that hole of depression deeper. Once someone is in such a deep hole that they can't feel anymore, don't want to do anything, nothing is interesting, etc. - well then it becomes a nearly impossible challenge to get out of that hole. I'd say ask your friend to go out and do something more often. In this way, you are offering them a rope. But realize that they must do the climbing. You can't force anyone to do anything. If they never seem to want to take your rope, get some other friends to help. If lots of ropes are thrown down with great frequency, it's usually only a matter of time until the person in the hole will grab one. It's a slow process to regain feeling. And a difficult one. Have patience with your friend and keep offering that rope every now and again. But remember, just like in Lord of the Rings: Return of the King, if you're playing the part of Sam - you can't carry the ring, you can only be there for support. And if it comes down to it, you can carry your friend. That was my favorite part of the whole trilogy I think. Either that or "You shall not pass!" way tight!

My wife went through a depressive episode a couple of months ago.
A combination of a low dosage of St. Johns Wort and getting her away from the house for a few days did wonders. Didn't bring her fully out of it, but it did give her a jump-start so that she could pull herself out of it.

Good luck, I'm pulling for you!

I was depressed once... then I got a girlfriend and all my problems went away... then I was worrying about HER problems.

Depression is a very sad, confusing, and destructive thing if it goes on for a long time.

I have helped many peers out of it, and its mainly support that does it, and having someone that they can talk to and vent everything, but they have to trust you enough.

There is severel explenations of depression, by different Psychologists, who follow different models of abnormal behaviour, such as the Psychodynamic model, proposed by Freud, which has no 'power today', the behaviourist model, the medical model and several more.

'They' say that depression is a lack of serotonin in the brain, and some say it is the cause of the envirnment, as explained by the behavioural model, and the transactional model.

I wont go on, but if you need some info, you can feel free to PM me, i am not a certified Psychologist, but i am currently taking a 2 year course in it, and i would love to help you out, cause depression is a horrible thing, and i have a burrden in my heart to help people out who are going through it!

my love, your heart, your knife, my back, two simple words scream broken trust, and as i look down into a pool of water and blood, my eyes, the tears, my back, the blood[/b]

see its not my friend its my uncle and he could never handle enotin, like he would let his ex-wire treat him in the way that she would drain him she was his world and one day she just said she didnt love him anymore and it was a 16 year marriage ended just like that and it hit him HARD . but he was smokin weed for about ...his whole life and quit cold. on top of that his 16 year old dog as a symbol of there message died . so i think hes about the deepest he could get in that whole. he even put himself in a phyciatric ward. plus he doesnt have friends he did but he quit smokin and they were all is smokin buddies all he does is think.

Ahh depression.. something each poor soul stumbles into atleast once.. and sometimes, never comes out of it..

In order to come out of depression, the solution depends on each case. As Lowercase Society said, reductionists believe that it's simply a lack of serontonin, however, I disagree. I lean towards the notion that depression, more or less, causes lack of serotonin. Of course.. that's a very arguable topic..

But anyways, one can never completely destroy their emotions. There are many people in depression whom have the mentality that they wish to abolish their emotions, so that they can feel free of problems. The essential goal in mind, is to escape from their problems. This can often lead to suicide, when they realise that they can't subside emotions, and thus, only one option seems plaudible. However, depending on the case, usually depression can be easily remedied; with the proper support.

Typically, depression can be dealt with just support and understanding. That's really it. However, talking to a therapist or psychiatrist to talk to, doesn't usually help; there's a difference between talking to someone whom cares to listen, and whom you're paying to listen. This is why free councilling sessions tend to have more of an impact on an individual.

If he is in a psychiatrict ward, then he'll be taken care of.. unfortunately many people don't feel truly cared there, more or less pitied more than anything..

The best thing you could do, is go visit and talk to him. Let him know how you feel about his problems, and listen to him; because he probably wants to talk. Don't just try focusing on problems, as well. Let him bring any problems up, otherwise, just ask how he's doing, what he's been up to, etc. You must let him open up.. once he's comfortable..

I wish there was a word or a sentence you could say that would make any single person just become happy, but there isn't.. just love.

It hurts me to hear about his loss and pain.. and I send my love to him, you, and your family.

Hope I've been enlightening

Take it easy

Thanks, O'nus, for covering the wholes i dodged...i appreciate it!

thanks a lot for the advice

Originally posted by Lowercase Society
Thanks, O'nus, for covering the wholes i dodged...i appreciate it!

I got your back

Sometimes it's good hearing the same round-about advice from two people.

Originally posted by O'nus
Sometimes it's good hearing the same round-about advice from two people.

yeah! oh and if you ever catch me generalizing on accident, just slap me a couple times!