Wow I agree with all of O's posts.. very insightful stuff man.. especially the part where you said she probably gets hit on all the time, so don't seem clingy, desperate, and be prepared for rejection.
I also agree with UM that the "raw" approach is pretty difficult, especially in high school, and especially if you don't have any prior experiences with girls. You should definitely work up the courage for the raw approach at some point in your life (the sooner the better), but realistically I think it's too much to expect in this situation.
So I guess I would propose two possible plans. One, figure out a silly way like "is this your pencil." And I will try my best to come up with something you could use.
It might also be easier if you did something like this while you were with one of your friends, too, kind of like moral support. But try to find a friend who
doesn't know how you feel about this girl. And in the future, going along with what UM said, don't just tell everyone about how you feel about a girl. Tell one or two people, if you must, and if you think it'll help in some way. Otherwise keep it to yourself. It'll be less stressful that way.
The other plan I propose is to forget all attempts at approaching this girl. Take the pressure off yourself, continue to admire her from afar if you must, and in the meantime get to know some girls that you are
not interested in, for the social practice. Whenever I had a big crush on someone, I found that it was immensely easier to talk to all the
other guys.
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