Thread: Tell me about how to pick up a chick that i don't know or have any classes with but i've seen around

Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

Wow I agree with all of O's posts.. very insightful stuff man..

Thanks.

Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

I also agree with UM that the "raw" approach is pretty difficult, especially in high school, and especially if you don't have any prior experiences with girls. You should definitely work up the courage for the raw approach at some point in your life (the sooner the better), but realistically I think it's too much to expect in this situation.

I agree with this. Truth be told; I never had the balls to be that direct in high school, unless I could tell the girl was already receptive toward me. I definitely offer that to Hercuflea as kind of an "If I'd have known then what I know now..." sort of deal. Heh.

But, Hercuflea, do you know anything about this girl? Is there any sort of conversation you could start with her about something she would likely already have an interest in? Is she the cheerleader type? Is she into science? You say you have friends that are friends with her. Do they know anything about her interests that the two of you might have in common? It would make your first conversation with her go much more smoothly if you two had some sort of mutual interest that could break the ice.

Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

The other plan I propose is to forget all attempts at approaching this girl. Take the pressure off yourself, continue to admire her from afar if you must, and in the meantime get to know some girls that you are not interested in, for the social practice. Whenever I had a big crush on someone, I found that it was immensely easier to talk to all the other guys.

This is good advice, too. It's something that definitely got me more accustomed to talking to attractive girls (not that I'm a regular Don Juan or anything now. I still have to work myself up to just approach someone I find really attractive). But now, it matters much less if I don't find someone that attractive, I still like to flirt with them. It's just good, playful fun, and it's a good way to practice being comfortable with flirty banter in general - which is important, because you never want things to seem too serious when you're first approaching someone you like. It's good to play with your prospect - like UM said. Don't be afraid to tease her a little bit. There is a healthy medium between showing someone you're interested in them and showing them you're "sprung" on them. Before you can make her feel comfortable, you have to show her that you're comfortable being around her. Much easier said than done, though, I know.