Thread: ld girlfriend?

Guess I don't have a "life" then. Please remember that a socially acceptable "life" is only one variation and not wanted by everyone.

On topic: yes it is possible because I have one

Well I never thought of her as a "girlfriend", but she is always there pretty much. I even named her. She is not modeled after anyone I ever knew, but I get the impression that she must be the manifestation of all I desire in this world. I have spent what seemed like hours in a single embrace; and that is all that ever happens; a few words and just that feeling. She is incredibly familiar and conversation is just not necessary. Most times I will find myself in a forest or similar scene; usually it is snowing for some reason. Suddenly I will see her and we embrace. It is a feeling that is completely indescribable; like heaven. Usually I see her at the end of the night, after I have gotten all other dreams out of my system.

Anyhow this makes waking up extremely depressing. I do not recommend it for "normal" people.

The purpose of lucid dreaming is to enhance your waking life as well as dream life. You're missing out if you don't practice dream recall/lucidity, and you're missing out if you don't appreciate the wonders of waking life. Ah well, to each his own.

Ah but I do appreciate them. Nature, beauty, long hikes. It is just that I do not find cities and bars and that sort of thing fascinating; in fact I despise them. Most people are the opposite, so that is how it is. All this is not the point anyhow....a "socially acceptable" person can still have dreams about the same woman every night.

I don't quite believe having a girlfriend means having to hang out in bars and the city everynight.

In fact I'm far from socially acceptable. I'm kinda weird in comparison to most people. and not in a classic dungeons and dragons way. i hate video games. haha. i just think different. but it doesnt stop me getting girls.

I really hate bars and drunk sluts and knobhead boys and so on. and the whole social thing. That said I find girls i like, and most of the time it works. And it is brilliant.

I usually try and find girls like me, same interests, and so on. Do the same. not all girls are bar and city obsessed people.
I succeed and have a proper relationship. and the real physical side isnt half bad either. you certainly shouldnt write it off.




Is this a matter of not wanting a real life one or not being able to get one?

I think you'll find falling in love with a seperate person far more rewarding than falling in love with someone you create.


also, with the kids going to the cinema thing, that is a different matter
those kids are physically not allowed.

some geeky teen in high school is. and nothing is stopping them but THEMSELVES.
its like the kid is allowed to go to the theater but wont let himself. cant bring himself to step in there. It is a problem alot of people face, but you cant just chicken out and get the easy alternative. If you truly want to get with a girl you can. It has nothing to do with anykind of barrier stopping you apart from yourself.

Yeah, really, there's a certain companionship that you can have with a real person that you will never have with yourself in your head. A real person is far more constant, too. You don't have to go to cities or bars. I don't like bars either.

Yeah I know, and you are making me depressed. :p

Good post Carousoul; and I do see your point quite well.

In the end I guess I just have little faith in people. Looking at it from a practical point of view, the serious, deeply emotional type of relationship I would want is not possible in my mind. For one thing, I live in the middle of nowhere. Secondly, the chance of someone being even remotely like me are minimal. Third, I would have to fall in love with them. Fourth, they would have to fall in love with me. Fifth, they would have to be as serious as I about it.

In the end it is laughable. Perhaps my sights are set too high, but that is how I tick. You see the math here is not in my favor.

On the point of my being a hermit; well aside from the one desire, I can be completely satisfied by myself because my whole life has been a journey of self exploration and being at peace with nature. The one desire sure is a tough one though. If it only be in my dreams, then so be it. It is real enough to me when I am asleep.

Makes more sense.

How old are you?
If your in the teenage years. go to university. [or college if you're american]

educated girls[more liekly to be like you] and all in a confined space.

I understand you enitrely. I often think similarly. I have stupidly small faith in people. But I don't give up. I have tried with a good few girls. and Haven't found the one I REALLY like. But wht I have done is realise WHO I want.

I know exactly the type of girl, and I have known a few in my lifetime.

But experience is good. You should never give up.

As you say even if the chance is stupidly small it is still a chance. if you give up there is nothing

and in all honesty it isnt that small a chance. so go into the city yknow. meet girls. meet them at school, or college/university.



I know as well as anyone you DO NOT need to be a socialite to find love.

You just gotta search.



On hindsight, your pro says your a musician.
get into music circles. talk online about music.
your very likely to find that kidn of girl you like in musical lines.




in short: DON'T JUST GIVE UP.

Indeed. You are right; a small chance is better than none. I cannot argue with pure logic; no matter how good my excuse or how far out in the mountains I live. I guess I have given up. I can do anything at all that I want; never had trouble conquering anything; save this. The math is just too ridiculous.

I will remember your words though, nonetheless.

I think my last words here will be

"It's about something more than just the maths."


Thankyou and goodnight.

Originally Posted by Carôusoul

also, with the kids going to the cinema thing, that is a different matter
those kids are physically not allowed.

some geeky teen in high school is. and nothing is stopping them but THEMSELVES.
its like the kid is allowed to go to the theater but wont let himself. cant bring himself to step in there. It is a problem alot of people face, but you cant just chicken out and get the easy alternative. If you truly want to get with a girl you can. It has nothing to do with anykind of barrier stopping you apart from yourself.

Well, in my opinion, that isn't necessarily true for everyone... for example, I'm homeschooled, don't get the chance to get out much, and my mother considers me too young to have a girlfriend anyway, so my chances of being able to find someone for a while are pretty much nonexistant no matter what I do. I'm sure that there are others in similar or worse situations, as well.

Personally, though, I wouldn't really want a lucid dream girlfriend, no matter how long it'll be before I can find a real girlfriend. I don't mean any offense to those who do have one, though.

Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

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Okay, errr...

A lucid girlfriend will make you a social outcast for the rest of your life!!! In fact you will not have a life!!!

The only situation I can see where having a lucid girlfriend would be acceptable is if you're stranded on a goddamn desert island.

Real girls aren't that hard to find. Not having one in high school is nothing to worry about.

Mes tarrant just because someone has a lucid girl friend does not mean he is an outcast .

For example one could simply be following a storyline and even if he does have a lucid gf does not mean he is an outcast there are many reasons for it besides social unexceptance.

I also have to agree with you on the high school comment . I find that many women in my high school where a bunch of whores and dumb asses . Only a few of them where actually considered smart and kind.

Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

The purpose of lucid dreaming is to enhance your waking life as well as dream life. You're missing out if you don't practice dream recall/lucidity, and you're missing out if you don't appreciate the wonders of waking life. Ah well, to each his own.

I find that dreams where meant to have fun to explore the limitless posibilities it holds .Not something to be used to escape reality with.I Agree with you there and yes to each there own.

I personally don't have much trouble in meeting girls lately, but I think lucid dreaming could prove to be a powerful tool in confronting your own insecurities and fears when it comes to talking to girls. After all, dreams are experienced like reality, so if you can create a scenario in which you practice talking to a girl or seducing her in a lucid dream, it is likely to reduce your eventual fears in waking life. There's a chapter on this in Exploring The World Of Lucid Dreaming, called Rehearsal For Living (page 152).

Not only would it be an ego-boost, it would also be beneficial in your exploration of the waking world.

There's nothing wrong with having a relationship with a dream character, as long as you don't give it too much meaning for yourself, or use it as a way to avoid having real relationships in the waking world.

Real life is much, much better, but my LD friends are still very precious to me. I am happily married, and would never consider cheating on my wife, but LD relationships are not cheating. My wife shares her sexual dreams with me, even when I'm not in them. It doesn't bother me because it doesn't mean a thing.

For the record, most of my dream relationships are merely as really good friends.

I dont know if the woman that keeps popping up in my dreams would be a girlfriend in my dreams or not. I do remember in one dream actually asking her if she was my girl, and she said yes. I dont consider myself a social outkast because of this, I actually have a pretty decent life in my waking life. I went into more detail in my post First Lucid Dream? Just a quick warning though, it is a long post, sorry for that, I just wanted to go into detail so I could know if the dream I had of her recently was a real lucid dream, not just a regular one.

I've never LD'd before. What will happen if you are walking down some street and a girl is walking towards you on the sidewalk and you moved into her way and hugged her randomly? would she slap you like what would probably happen or hug you? Nothing would beat walking around town hugging all the girls before they pass you lol.

She would hug you back, or do what ever you wanted her to do basically

Oh and on that note I will add dream hugs are awesome!!!

Whoever has an LD gf, needs to get a social life..... IN REAL LIFE!

Originally Posted by Infraredkelp

Whoever has an LD gf, needs to get a social life..... IN REAL LIFE!

Originally Posted by Infraredkelp

Are you kidding? I have LDs every night! My girlfriend at the moment is Mileena from Mortal Kombat . She's more like a friend with benefits, but eh, you get the point.

LOL!!
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I can only imagine...

"Why don't you go to bed earlier"..."We never talk anymore"..."Does my butt look big to you?"..."nag nag nag nag nag."

Originally Posted by Sandform

I can only imagine...

"Why don't you go to bed earlier"..."We never talk anymore"..."Does my butt look big to you?"..."nag nag nag nag nag."

Originally Posted by Clairity

LOL!!
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hahahah! Nice job there infared!

she's a friend with benefits, okay?