Thread: help!

having problems with a girl i like - amanda.

but i was more just wondering about DCs in general and what exactly controls them..

Originally Posted by jeopardy2k7

having problems with a girl i like - amanda.

but i was more just wondering about DCs in general and what exactly controls them..

You control them.

Think about it:
- You are having problems with Amanda in waking life.
- When dreaming, how you feel is projected as an actual reality that you experience.
- Since you are having problems with Amanda, you will project this into the dream.
- Considering that you are unsure how to resolve the problem with Amanda, or how she would act in response to the resolution, you cannot control the DC version of her.

What is the problem you are having with her...?
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well yeah ok but surely just like the whole lucid thing if you really genuinely believe something will happen and you expect it to then it should? (in dreams this is, obviously i can't control her in waking life.)

(but man how awesome would that be )

Originally Posted by jeopardy2k7

well yeah ok but surely just like the whole lucid thing if you really genuinely believe something will happen and you expect it to then it should? (in dreams this is, obviously i can't control her in waking life.)

(but man how awesome would that be )

Of course, however, the fact that you do not think you can control her in waking life will affect how you feel about her in your dreams. Furthermore, perhaps you have respect for her and do not want to take away her free will to resist your "control" over her in your dreams. To analyze that, I think it may be the case that you want her to naturally come around and appreciate you without you having to desparately try and force her to do so.

What do you think...?
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well in waking life we lead quite separate lives. they just keep clashing every now and then. she's very independant, so i don't think i have any control at all in the real world.

and as for the dreams um... no?
it's not that i don't respect her because of it, but just i know i'm dreaming and i want to see her so i.. yeah. see?

Originally Posted by jeopardy2k7

well in waking life we lead quite separate lives. they just keep clashing every now and then. she's very independant, so i don't think i have any control at all in the real world.

and as for the dreams um... no?
it's not that i don't respect her because of it, but just i know i'm dreaming and i want to see her so i.. yeah. see?

So are you friends with her?

What kind of relationship do you want to have with her?
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mm we're friends and i guess interested in each other but it's one of those weird things where we've never actually gone out..

i asked her a bunch of times but she always seems to find a way of backing out of it at the last minute.

so basically she's interested, but not THAT interested.
and me? i'd love it if something did happen.



which is where the dreams are kind of cool. i get to see her without all the does she/doesn't she stuff.

shame the apparent solution can't be "stuff"-free......