I have a question for all lucid dreamers, especially experienced ones: How "real" do your LDs feel?

What I mean by real is, how strong is the feeling that you actually were there, in the dream, experiencing the things that happened?

I have had a dozen LDs over the past couple years, and am presently experiencing a long dry spell, but all of my LDs so far have seemed some how not real, or insubstantial. It always feels, when I wake up, almost as if some one "else" was in the dream, and I am sort of just remembering what happened to that person. Or, its like the dream was a movie that I watched. Even though I almost always remember sensations and vividness, I also always feel disconnected somehow. Like I wasn't really there, I just remember being there.

What I'm wondering is, who out there has had similar experiences, who has had different ones.

Specifically, I wonder if there is anyone out there who has been LDing a long time, and when they started their dreams felt as "unreal" as mine. If so, I wonder if they have gotten to feel more real as they LDed more.

Is this something that I'll be stuck with? Is it just how I feel when I LD? Or can it be changed, can I learn to feel like I'm really there?

-Lux