Thread: 3 nightmares, 1 message? need help!

1st nightmare: (it never occurred to me that i was dreaming) its nighttime at home with my family--my wife and 2 year old daughter (irl--in real life). i realize there are bears roaming around outside, sniffing us out, looking for a way in to kill and eat us. there is a mama bear which is huge and increasingly aggressive, and her 2 bear cubs. i get really scared.
me: “Oh shit! Wife, there’s some bears here to eat us!”
wife: “oh my god!”
me: “quick get the baby! hide!
my wife, gripped by more fear than me, is confused and doesn't know what to do and ends up getting close to the front door where the mama bear is
me: “no not there!”
wife: “oh my god!”
me: “hurry get behind me!”
holding our daughter, she gets behind me.
i think, how can i defend my family? wait, i have a shotgun! (i do irl) so i sprint to the the garage and get it as i would irl. i load it as fast as i can. too afraid to face the bear, i break the front door window glass with the barrel of the gun but at an angle with me not seeing where the gun is being pointed. i fire continuously until i there is no more shells (shotgun ammo). after this, i look outside and see only 1 dead bear cub. “fuck! the mama bear is still alive and probably pissed!” i think in my head.
me: “wife, call the police! tell them there’s a bear here!”
so one policeman shows up and fires his pistol in the air, scaring away the bears. suddenly, a lion rushes him coming from the street and kills him. i wake.

2nd nightmare: (it never occurred to me that i was dreaming) 2 police officers catch me, my sister (20’s) and my daughter (2years old) being in a nice house we were not supposed to be in. we were gonna have a party or something while the owners of the house were gone--of course without their knowledge. before i knew it, the police were in the house we were in--busted.
i knew right away the police were going to beat me up bad, but i was too afraid to confront my nightmare dc’s in fear they would hurt my family too if i did. so i plead with the police not to hurt my family, resulting in me getting real fucked up (the pain was so real) by the police in front of my family but they did not hurt my family directly. i was relieved they didnt beat up my family-- talked em out of it but they really wanted too.

3rd nightmare[ish kinda dream]: (it never occurred to me that i was dreaming) it was nighttime and raining fairly hard with lighting too occasionally lighting up the outside. i find myself at my home, trapped and surrounded by Somali pirates (about 10 of them), except they were on the ground. they were there stalking us, waiting to burst into my home to capture/kidnap me, my mom and my brother for ransom money.
i looked around my home for something i could use to defend my family with but there was nothing. the Somali pirates were closing in on our home. i never felt fear, only anger and frustration at not having weapons to defend me and my family. i quickly locked all the doors. i looked out the window and a Somali pirate was looking inside our home, kinda smirking as he was coming to realize how vulnerable we were. i put my middle finger right at him and shouted “fuck you mother fucker, fuck you!”
i was so pissed that in a few moments the Somali pirates would burst in and kidnap me and my family. after i flipped him off i remembered wait, i have a shotgun! so i ran to the garage and found i had 2! i shout to my family to hear: “hell yea, I’m gonna kill these mother fuckers!” so i get the two shotguns and take them to the room we are hunkered down in when i realize i have no shells (shotgun ammo)! noooo!
then i see 3 wooden baseball bats in the corner...sigh, baseball bats, that’s it?... but my brother and mother are too gripped by fear to get one after i tell them “here, take this.” extremely frustrated and angry, i get the heaviest of the wood bats, face the door, my brother and mother behind me, and wait for them the come crashing in.
i awake.

common nightmare themes: in a house, bad guys/things more powerful than me outside; me trying to protect my family; police do not help me;
shotgun note: in the first nightmare, i use the shotgun ammo, in the third nightmare, i have the shotgun but used up all the dream ammo.
lucidity note: i was never lucid, i never knew i was dreaming. if i would’ve thought for a second it may be a dream, i would have rc’d and i would like to confront my nightmares without violence as i normally do in non-lucid dreams.
any analysis or help
real life details: i do own a shotgun, i live in LA--a ghetto part--for many many years, there are home invasions here in the area but this has been since i was little, i am the provider of my family, i am mexican-american, im in my 20s

I need help on how to become lucid in these bad dreams!
I need help understanding these bad dreams!