Thread: Why does a positive view of the afterlife not seem to prevent deep grief?

I will be the first to admit that you are still susceptible to momentary lapses of judgement and strong emotional states, but I view them like consciousness, time, and rivers. You gotta let them come and go. Moving on is the end goal, coming to terms with what is ailing you allows you to learn the skills needed to let moments like these pass. The more you make it a habit, the more it becomes habit, and it's nearly like you skip the middle man altogether. It becomes an automatic process, like muscle memory.

Keeping yourself from getting too lost in the details is an active process, seeing the big picture is mindfully being aware of what is going on to and around you. You bring all the details together to paint an all encompassing portrait, it frees up cognition and allows you to make new connections. It's the difference between Newton's theories and quantum mechanics. If you get lost in the details, you are stuck in a linear thought process that allows you to make fewer decisions, arbitrarily let's say 2 or 3. Using lateral thinking, knowing and understanding polarity and opposites, you can see that a lot more is going on than meets the eye, and in order to more creatively solve issues important to you, you can start approaching the problem from an entirely different way. The greatest inventors in society have not come up with solutions that are obvious or even fairly obvious. They thought outside of the box, they used their imagination and wondered if there a force like electricity really existed, tested the hypothesis, and then based on the results found ways to harness and utilize this force. What if gravity were not a force, as it merely appears to be, what if time and space are inexorably linked? What if it's spacetime, and not space and time? Things appear to be a lot of ways, but it is because we believe they have to be this way that makes it "true" in our subjective reality. Denial is terribly limiting and close-minded.

Thus, if we don't deny that there are problems, if we don't deny that there are solutions, if we keep an open mind to things but still remain skeptical (treat it truly as if both possibilities are capable of being the "truth" as we understand it, not trying to prove something wrong per se, but to make sure as certainly that we can that it isn't), we can see through illusions and come to an understanding of something. Understanding in this case meaning the ability to practically utilize "knowledge" or observed (what appear to be) facts. Proving something wrong shouldn't be an end goal for a skeptic either, it should be proving why something is wrong, to achieve understanding.