Originally Posted by shadowofwind
Grammar and logic can be all nuanced and rigorous and a person can still be almost entirely wrong. We're not starting from the right place. But off hand I don't think that any love is conditional.
Haha! I see exactly what you mean.
I'm not sure that posters here are qualified to make philosophical pronouncements about the nature or reality of unconditional love.
You're really too hard on yourself. You did really well! This is such a fantastic point:
I don't think that any love is conditional.
It excellently supports and sharpens the stance Darkmatters, Original Poster and notsharpenough hold, which poses one cannot (always) love unconditionally without abandoning oneself (altogether) because unconditional love is nothing personal--it is affection felt independently, free from judgments. Only through detachment, only through divorcing our (impersonal) awareness from the (personal) filter which constitutes "self" or "ego" can we achieve the "pure awareness" (as someone dubbed it earlier in the thread) required to embody something non conditional or absolute like "unconditional love". Without personality or preferences, we are no longer slaves to our own ideals, our own rules, our self-imposed conditions; to deliver ourselves from ego, thus, is to become limitless, unrestricted and ultimately free to love.
Yet here we are, still pouting in contention over various interpretations of not only what unconditional love is, but also what we mean by ego.
Why can't we reach a consensus?
What is keeping us from gliding in the absolute?
What is the point of debating "how the fuck" if we can't even agree on what the fuck we're even talking about? If we continue to linger in the obscurity of our personal interpretations of otherwise shared concepts, then we will remain powerless at large: for what use are our interpretations--our understandings--if they communicate nothing to others?
Originally Posted by Parousia
In regards to what it is, I think we can all agree that unconditional love is an idea.
If we can be certain of anything, it is how we obviously are not in agreement over this. So, what do we mean by "unconditional love"? How is it different from other types of love? Is it logical to conclude multiple types of love exist? shadowofwind called to our attention how the word "unconditional" is a qualifier. Placing it before "love" suggests that love is not absolute or independent of circumstance; in other words, that it is contingent. This is another way to say love is not always here.
Love is not always here...
Is that logical to conclude? Can you relate? Romantic love may come to mind. Maybe you've experienced relationships just "not working out". Do failed relationships entail an absence of love? What about lasting romance? How is "true love" different from "unconditional love"? Well, romances aside, what are the chances love could really be here forever? Do we know of any absolutes in the universe?
If nothing is absolute, then everything existing is finite, limited. Thus, as tsiouz and StonedApe have suggested, love is attraction resulting from specific conditions.
If absolutes exist, infinity isn't fantasy, but rather a logical quality existing physically outside the imagination. Thus, the expression "unconditional love" is redundant because love, as shadowofwind posited, is never conditional and never ends.
How can we decide? Before/without regarding any scientific data for absolutes or axioms, we can actually deduce a solution by answering a different question: do either of these choices lead to a contradiction? Solving this should help us clarify the answers to a few other questions raised in this thread, strengthen our overall understanding about the topic, and, most importantly, lead us to a consensus. So, what say you?
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