Thread: What do people look for in a potential mate?

Great sense of humor, Kindness, Consideration, Understanding
Passion (for life, and then for me, when they've got to know me!)
Height. I know that's shallow, but i like my men above six feet! I like to feel safe... Able to cook, Intelligent. (emotionally and mentally. I think it's good if he can understand emotions.)
Not afraid to express how he feels. (its no fun,if you're giving him emotional stuff, and he doesn't return it...i know it can be difficult for men, but with the right woman, i don't think it should be)
Someone who understands when i need them, and when i'd prefer to be left alone...aka, recognising PMT! ('GET LOST! *SMASH*)
Oh yeah, and he has to dress nicely.[/b]

Ideally, as many of the above plus compromise! We are not all perfect and can't expect the same from our partners or potential partners. It is also important to have the same values/beliefs ie. whether religious/political. It is important that I can be myself around him and vice versa. I guess its up to you what you are willing to trade off (ie. height/cooking skills) when you meet the "one". All I know is that after we met, we could not be apart for too long! (Sorry if its corny)...

Originally posted by mistikal

Great sense of humor, Kindness, Consideration, Understanding *
Passion (for life, and then for me, when they've got to know me!) *
Height. I know that's shallow, but i like my men above six feet! I like to feel safe... Able to cook, Intelligent. (emotionally and mentally. I think it's good if he can understand emotions.)
Not afraid to express how he feels. (its no fun,if you're giving him emotional stuff, and he doesn't return it...i know it can be difficult for men, but with the right woman, i don't think it should be) *
Someone who understands when i need them, and when i'd prefer to be left alone...aka, recognising PMT! ('GET LOST! *SMASH*) *
Oh yeah, and he has to dress nicely.

Ideally, as many of the above plus compromise! We are not all perfect and can't expect the same from our partners or potential partners. It is also important to have the same values/beliefs ie. whether religious/political. It is important that I can be myself around him and vice versa. I guess its up to you what you are willing to trade off (ie. height/cooking skills) when you meet the \"one\". All I know is that after we met, we could not be apart for too long! (Sorry if its corny)...[/b]

Nah, it doesn't sound corny...if you're plain crazy about each other, of course you're going to want to spend as much time as possible together...
and compromise, yeah...and not only that, you have to be able to talk to each other on a level, that allows you to sort things out without it resorting to a slanging match, or making you both so bitter that you dredge up the past in every argument...(believe me, i've seen it happen and it ain't pretty!)

I guess if we're doing checklists...

- Playful/silly/child-like/boyish/free-spirited
- Compassionate/Kind
- Open minded/accepting
- Somebody I can talk to about anything
- A cuddly/kissy/holding hands boy (I must have all that goofy stuff, and I dont mean the high leveled romance like candle light and flowers though)

That's the basics I guess, I could add more for the perfect guy but oh well.

For looks I like light skin with dark hair. Eyes, doesn't matter too much, anything can be charming, but I like big eyes though. I like him to be soft featured and feminine, but not too faggy lol.

Hmyeah I shouldn't get too deep into this..err yeah I'm picky.

I dont make a list, and I dont look for anyone.

Originally posted by NirvanaStarseed
I dont make a list, and I dont look for anyone.

Now there's an enigmatic answer if ever i saw one...and lucius..about the 'boyish' look...that's nice, but throw in a bit of occasional ruggedness for good measure eh? Not all the time of course!

Nirvana, you don't look, you wait for them to come to you, right? Best way to be i say, although that does have its drawbacks, when you meet someone, and it's like 'wow' and you're right in the middle of something else in your life, and you go 'why now?! aggh!' But in the end, if he/she is charming enough, you soon forget that...

Well, I am not looking, only b/c the one I did find died....

Originally posted by nesgirl119
Well, I am not looking, only b/c the one I did find died....

Hey, i'm really sorry to hear that nesgirl, but, don't you think, if he loved you, he'd want you to move on and be happy?
I know if it was me, i would.

Originally posted by irishcream+--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(irishcream)</div>

lucius..about the 'boyish' look...that's nice, but throw in a bit of occasional ruggedness for good measure eh?[/b]

I love the pretty cutie boys! ^_~ Wee. Go femme and cute. But besides the looks I was moreso pointing at personality aswell, I love chidlike qualities. But I guess personality does reflect in looks, in a way

<!--QuoteBegin-NirvanaStarseed
I dont make a list, and I dont look for anyone.

Just because one knows what he loves in another soul, doesn't mean you have to be looking actively indeed I know what I love, what I want..but I'm not actively looking or anything

Originally posted by irishcream


Hey, i'm really sorry to hear that nesgirl, but, don't you think, if he loved you, he'd want you to move on and be happy?
I know if it was me, i would.

Yeah, I know that...but sometimes I can't help crying....b/c sometimes my memories become too close...I have even cried in my sleep..

In no particular order:
Slant eyes
Dark skin
Ghetto Booty
Long straight jet black hair
Slim and petite
Mute
Obedient

There are so many things wrong with that James, I don't even know how to begin to comment on it.

Yet I remain oddly attracted to you.

Anyhoop, here's what I look for:

- kind
- sexy
- non-vindictive
- intelligent
- attentive
- understanding
- patient
- not arrogant
- open
- has more than 4 emotions
- preferably athiest like me
- thinks I'm the shit
- loves me
- willing to try/learn new things
- loves my kid
- not a chauvanist
- liberal
- appreciates fine arts and cuisine
- healthy
- accepting
- openminded
- likes cats
- consideration
- understanding
- a gentleman
- good listener
- HONEST (last one most important)

edit: forgot PUNCTUAL (what's with you late people anyway)

I know it's a tall order, but they DO exist

Originally posted by OpheliaBlue
I know it's a tall order, but they DO exist

Are you sure?

Originally posted by Hate

Are you sure?

yup

even found one myself

My sex partner in crime wrote:

yup *

even found one myself[/b]

Aww...I'm flattered, but to be honest I'm strictly neutral when it comes to cats.

PS - I got my quote right.

Originally posted by LongDong
Aww...I'm flattered, but to be honest I'm strictly neutral when it comes to cats. *

PS - I got my quote right. *

THAT'S how you're supposed to do it GAWD!!!!

And yes, you were the first that followed my criteria, but I had to opt for the local single one.

you heartbreaker

Nothing. I don't believe in love and I don't believe that there's "someone out there" for me. No biggie.

Originally posted by A Lost Soul
Nothing. I don't believe in love and I don't believe that there's \"someone out there\" for me. No biggie.

ha ha...you'll learn...
And that's all i'm saying.

Originally posted by irishcream


*ha ha...you'll learn...
And that's all i'm saying.

Yeah, I kinda hope so. I'd like to think I'm wrong...

Originally posted by A Lost Soul

Yeah, I kinda hope so. I'd like to think I'm wrong...

Love's a funny thing, it comes when you least expect it.

For my perfect guy. Lucius mainly summed it up in his post, maybe I like them a little more rugged

Also beautiful eyes, I love just looking in someones eyes and just being able to tell what they're thinking and see the person inside.

i think u (even though ur not looking for one) well find some one with a complete opposite PERSONNALITY not likes or dislikes i mean if 2 compety happy laid back ppl get together there house hold will be to laid back if 2 get things done do it my way ppl get together all hell breaks loose but if u put those 2 differnt ppl together(in the same house i mean) there get along the liad back on wants to make the get things done one happy so the laid back on will do everything half ass and the get things done one fixes it up well not excatly cause all ppl are at least a little bit differnt even if there trying to be the same btw everything stated above might not be correct and if u make the mistake of listening to me and haveing something bad happen its your fault not mine mmmm i should put that as my siggy

i dont really have a "type" but here are some +s:

~honest
~caring
~helpful
~listener
~gentlemen
~reserved yet social
~tall, dark, handsome
~open
~patient
~intelligent
~great smile
~gorgeous eyes
~sense of humor
~funny
~loving
~obedient

Originally posted by justme
i think u (even though ur not looking for one) well find some one with a complete opposite PERSONNALITY not likes or dislikes i mean if 2 compety happy laid back ppl get together there house hold will be to laid back if 2 get things done do it my way ppl get together all hell breaks loose but if u put those 2 differnt ppl together(in the same house i mean) there get along the liad back on wants to make the get things done one happy so the laid back on will do everything half ass and the get things done one fixes it up well not excatly cause all ppl are at least a little bit differnt even if there trying to be the same btw everything stated above might not be correct and if u make the mistake of listening to me and haveing something bad happen its your fault not mine mmmm i should put that as my siggy

comes up for air....there was like, NO punctuation in that post.

What is this a dating agency? Haha maybe we should open another thread where people list what they consider to be their best attirbutes and we'll be set

What do I like in a girl? hmm interesting seeing as I am NOT a relationship person at all.

Intelligent.
Interesting (has her own opinion on things).
Passionate.
Fun. Not whingey or mopey... grr that really drives me insane.
Creative.
Experimental.
Huge big open imagination and a heart to match.

But I don't know... unless I somehow stumbled across the perfect girl, I don't last in a relationship longer than a month or two because as soon as I get bored I just want a change.

Lisa.

Anyhoop, here's what I look for:

- kind
- sexy
- non-vindictive
- intelligent
- attentive
- understanding
- patient
- not arrogant
- open
- has more than 4 emotions
- preferably athiest like me
- thinks I'm the shit
- loves me
- willing to try/learn new things
- loves my kid
- not a chauvanist
- liberal
- appreciates fine arts and cuisine
- healthy
- accepting
- openminded
- likes cats
- consideration
- understanding
- a gentleman
- HONEST (last one most important)[/b]

You are going to be single forever. Athiest do not have these qualities. Simply because they are not evolved enough.

By the way this is a good thread to mention most people who look for these perfect qualitites in another partner oftern do not have these qualities in themself. But maybe wish they did or think they do. Relationships is all about who you are, you are always going to attact someone on your level. If you have perfect qualities you are going to attract others with perfect qualities. If not. Keep dreaming.