Problems sleeping alone...

[slayer]

I feel like I can't get to sleep without someone beside me. Well, this is sort of embarrassing to say, but for a long time, I would always sleep in my mom's room with her. I stopped doing this when I started to try to Lucid Dream, so I can thank LDing for getting me to sleep in my own room. But having slept in the same bed with someone for so long, I feel like I can't sleep comfortably without someone beside me. I only realized this last night. And I'm not sure how to overcome this, as I'm not sure if this is something I will just outgrow, because ever since I slept in my own room, I've seemed to always have this problem. I can't really just go out and get a girlfriend and have her sleep in my room with me...I know my parents would defiantly object to that. I don't know how I should fix this problem, so does anyone have any suggestions?

[IndigoGhost]

Yes, a Giant Teddy bear. Not meaning it as a joke or anything but haveing a giant bear next too you would almost certinally sort out your problem, but on the other hand it may not be that sleeping alone is your problem but sleeping away from your mother is your problem, especially if you had a close bond with her, I could go into deep psycological reason but i will leave it at that ^^

[slayer]

It's not like I've moved out or anything, our rooms are right next to each other. Also, I'm not too sure about a giant teddybear...I do have a small turtle next to me, but it's just there...

[IndigoGhost]

Needs to be Human sized, and the Mother thing is psycological, being that your further away from her physicly transfering to a phycological feeling of lonelyness that your probably feeling on your own hence being unable to sleep comfortably.

[slayer]

Well, I just don't really want to feel like it's "childish" or anything...I do realize that it may be helping me, but I don't want to have to deal with people making fun of me at school. And I know they would because my brother tells everyone just about everything he sees or hears... Now, if it was something anime related, then I could definitaly get something that no one would find weird, as if it was just a doll, I could just put it in my room as display, then when I go to bed, just set it next to me. Plus, I would rather be cought sleeping with some anime thing than some giant teddy bear... But yeah, it would have to be something that's human sized. And no, I highly doubt my mom would buy me a blow up doll...

[IndigoGhost]

Get one of those Bear things from Bleach no idea what its called cause i dont watch Bleach but i know they sell em at a large size. Also m8, dont feel embaresed about it, nothing to be embaresed about just look at the people who are mocking you and realise that they mock you for being different, but by being different you are being unique and greatness comes from being different, Nobody has got that far makeing fun of people because they useually end up with crappy jobs.

[slayer]

Get one of those Bear things from Bleach no idea what its called cause i dont watch Bleach but i know they sell em at a large size. Also m8, dont feel embaresed about it, nothing to be embaresed about just look at the people who are mocking you and realise that they mock you for being different, but by being different you are being unique and greatness comes from being different, Nobody has got that far makeing fun of people because they useually end up with crappy jobs. His name is Kon. /animenerd

[IndigoGhost]

There ya go ^_^ - Get a giant Kon On another note, I am sure Steve jobs always used to get Mocked and Bullied for always wareing a Black shirt and Jeans, but he diddent let it bother him and look where he is now! and he still hasent taken off those Shirt and Jeans!

[slayer]

Steve Jobs... Where I have heard that name... Wasn't he one of the guys who made the first Apple computer? Edit: And would anyone else have any suggestions?

[♥Mark]

Get used to it. You're going to be alone for a long time.

[slayer]

Get used to it. You're going to be alone for a long time. This is true...

[shrimpster]

Umm apart from the giant teddy bear/toy animal option I'm not sure :S... It probably is more of a psychological thing, try spending more time with your mother if it is emotionally based? But I would try the giant teddy bear approach as well, even if your brother is an ass you could just have it out at night so he won't realize?(then again he might realize...). Hmm, It might be best just to try and forget about it as it seems that you've been LDing/not sleeping with someone for 1 and a half years and you've only came to the realization that it's a problem now so it may just be that you're making a big problem out of a small one... ANY WHO, I hope you find a solution for your problem in the not-so-distant future.

[Sweet Dreams]

you're not a lone slayer. i still love to sleep next to my mom whenever i could, i'll always be her baby girl! i have brothers and cousins who do the same, it's just not something that people talk about out in the open. and really, it's no body's business, it's nothing weird. and yes it is mostly a psychological thing. i myself learned to love sleeping alone, even though i grew up sharing rooms or even a bed with a sis.. yet, when i sleep alone, i love having extra pillows around me, especially on either side of the bed so that i don't feel like i'll fall off the edge. i think it serves as both physical as well as psychological support. so, no need for big giant teddy bear. try the pillow thing, and, most importantly, learn to relax. relaxing is the number one thing you need. there's this thing about being near our mothers that instantaneously puts us at ease. so there's obviously great benefits in learning how to relax without being next to our mothers. there are threads here dedicated to relaxation techniques, and lots over the web. if you need specific links send me a PM and i'll be happy to share them.

[IndigoGhost]

you're not a lone slayer. i still love to sleep next to my mom whenever i could, i'll always be her baby girl! i have brothers and cousins who do the same, it's just not something that people talk about out in the open. and really, it's no body's business, it's nothing weird. and yes it is mostly a psychological thing. i myself learned to love sleeping alone, even though i grew up sharing rooms or even a bed with a sis.. yet, when i sleep alone, i love having extra pillows around me, especially on either side of the bed so that i don't feel like i'll fall off the edge. i think it serves as both physical as well as psychological support. so, no need for big giant teddy bear. try the pillow thing, and, most importantly, learn to relax. relaxing is the number one thing you need. there's this thing about being near our mothers that instantaneously puts us at ease. so there's obviously great benefits in learning how to relax without being next to our mothers. there are threads here dedicated to relaxation techniques, and lots over the web. if you need specific links send me a PM and i'll be happy to share them. I agree ^^

[Shift]

Actually, this sleeping in the same bed as your parents thing is more common than you'd expect, although I believe it typically ends around age 11 or 12. I'm not saying that it is NORMAL (because what does that mean, and who gets to set that standard anyway??), but I did it until I was about that age, and I know a LOT of people who did the same thing. Although it does depend on how close you are to your parent(s) and the sexes of the people involved I guess. I'd never sleep in my dad's bed lol. But as a 12 year old girl I didn't have a problem sleeping in my mom's bed frequently, until she got cats and I was allergic to them. I used to do this when I was young and woke up from nightmares, and when we moved to our new house I started doing it again, so I think yes that it is a psychological comfort thing, not to mention physical closeness is comforting. My dog sleeps in my bed with me when I am at home. When I am at school I feel very alone in my bed at night. I've gotten more adjusted to it but it is disconcerting to be in a bed alone, although now I think it would be weird if I slept in my mom's bed Anyway do you have a dog you can sleep with? They're very snuggly and comforting You could try weaning yourself off of needing that physical comfort/closeness. Just start sleeping in her room less and less often over a gradual period of time. Drop one day every two weeks, and I think that in two or three months you won't have to worry about your brother bugging you, and you'll be sleeping comfortably on your own! This is probably something I shouldn't say but... is there anything you can blackmail YOUR brother with? So if he ever brings it up, and threatens to tell people, you can retaliate? I know this is how sibling rivalry works, before my brother grew up he could be a total douche bag too

[slayer]

and yes it is mostly a psychological thing. i myself learned to love sleeping alone, even though i grew up sharing rooms or even a bed with a sis.. yet, when i sleep alone, i love having extra pillows around me, especially on either side of the bed so that i don't feel like i'll fall off the edge. i think it serves as both physical as well as psychological support. Oh yes, I love having lots of pillows! I have about 8 or so on my bed...or atleast I did I haven't slept in my moms room for a long time. And my dogs smell, so there is no way I'm going to let one of them sleep on my bed. But sometimes, one of my dogs will come in and sleep at the foot of my bed. Plus, my parents don't like it when animals get on the furniture I could try the pillow thing some more. I do know now of Elfen Lied pillow sheets that have pictures of the characters on them

[AlexLou]

Get a body pillow. Oh, and sleeping with people: ick! I want my own bed!!

[Shift]

Give your dogs a bath!!!

[slayer]

LOL we do! But they run right back outside... We close the doors and stuff but when we have to let them out, they run out and roll around in the dirt and stuff.

[Shift]

Aw, bummer. Yea I have an electric fence, and after my girls are out they smell pretty bad. I know dogs only sweat through their feet, but honestly it's like they smell bad because they've been out sweating, but then it goes away... I dunno, maybe my dogs just have stinky feet Hmm. If it was me that's a behavior I'd correct, just so that they didn't reek and I didn't have to bathe them as often lol. Of course I'm also the only one in my family that ever washes the dog (unless they get out and swim in the lake, in which case everyone wants to give them a bath asap haha)

[AlexLou]

Like wolves, dogs don't like to smell like dogs so they disguise their smell by rolling in anything stinky they can find. It actually helps wolves sneak up on prey . . .

[IndigoGhost]

Yes my dogs roll in Slugs and Snails. also have to remember to stop them licking me......

[EchoSun13]

Is it out of fear you can't sleep alone, or is it because you are use to sleeping next to someone?

[slayer]

I'm used to sleeping next to someone. The only time I get scarred of sleeping alone is when I start to flood my head with bad images like those scary pop-up websites and that sort of stuff...

[Halocuber]

Oh yes, I love having lots of pillows! I have about 8 or so on my bed...or atleast I did I haven't slept in my moms room for a long time. And my dogs smell, so there is no way I'm going to let one of them sleep on my bed. But sometimes, one of my dogs will come in and sleep at the foot of my bed. Plus, my parents don't like it when animals get on the furniture I could try the pillow thing some more. I do know now of Elfen Lied pillow sheets that have pictures of the characters on them That sucks... But , would your parents allow your dog to sleep at the foot of the bed if he is like groom once a day and bathe once a week?