I started this thread. 'cause i noticed quite a few guys on this forum who obviously need social skills.
DV has seen many many threads like "does she like me?" "what does it mean when she does/says this" ,"Umm there's this girl..."
" If she eats fried beans does it means she's gay?"

So, any advice on this type of stuff can go here! Since i do have a little bit of experience improving my social life and skill set. I'll make some posts from time to time and provide some material on the subject. There are also a few guys who share the same kind of views that i do, and are far better at "the game" than I. so, i hope one or two of them may pop by here once in a while.

I'll give a little background on myself concerning this matter. Once you realise how lame I was hopefully you won't feel bad about yourself as much in this area!

About 3 years ago I turned 18. I had only maybe a few girlfriends up to that point. The ones I had were short lived. They'd last a couple weeks or so. Either i would dump them for being distant or i would get told "I made a mistake by going out with you". The only time I got close to having sex, was when i was 17. She practically tried to rape me, because i would refuse to sleep with her, i actually thought sex was a "bad" thing.

And on my 18th birthday I realised that i was missing out on a huge chunk of life. Everywhere around me i'd see my friends pairing off or being manwhores, or whatever. I just knew that there was something I just didn't get. The thought of starting a conversation with a woman i didn't know scared the hell outta me. I was frightened that i had no idea, how to make friends, or even "date" a woman. Once i realised this, looking back throughout my teen years, I made a decision to get this part of my life handled.

I signed up for newsletters from "dating guru's" like David DeAngelo. His stuff got me on to a good and bad start. My mis-applications of his cocky/funny techniques got me plenty of slaps in the face. But some of his stuff enabled me to get into conversations with strangers, even how to get a Phone number within 3 minutes of meeting someone. It didn't matter If i didn't go out, or sleep with them. I now had a way to make friends easily. But, I'm not an arrogant type of guy so i had to drop his stuff, because it wasn't working all that well for me.

Next i discovered the dreaded Seduction community. in those forums i was overloaded with theory. Many theories and their applications contradicted each other. Some guys preached, using pickup lines and routines, while others preached being natural and in the moment. Some would say be a jerk, and others would say be a gentleman. I took a long time to sort through what was needed for me, and what to scrap.

Next i made a commitment to GET OUT and be social. After many failures, I dropped the baggy/torn pants, Unkempt hair, loose shirts. and worked on myself. I gave myself a small makeover in one day, when i had a ton of spending money. Instead of walking around slouched, I walked with shoulders rolled back, and head a bit higher. I was amazed at the differences in how people would react to me. Women would start onversations with me, flirt, smile, you name it. jsut after a little thing like that! and I had never had anything like this happen before! Also i had NO IDEA to react. But now, i at least had something to work with.

I'll skip a lot of the story, Unless someone begs me. But basically over a period of time I reached a point where it was very easy for me to meet people, new connections. Got the sex thing handled. After all that work it wasn't THAT big a deal. but today, I realise I have not much fear when it comes to meeting strange people. It no longer frightens me to start talking to someone i think is cute. I'm just saying IT CAN BE DONE!

rejection will do that BTW. I don't fear rejection at all now because in my adventures I've had it bad. I've had beer thrown in my face, One lady started hitting me, and pushing me over chairs when i talked to her. So basically it's pretty funny when it happens now. I love getting in all sorts of crazy shit now! I still get it sometimes. But 9 out of 10 times, later on in the night at another bar/club/event I'll always find at least 1-3 women that are good looking/friendly/ and easy to get along with that i can Have fun with.