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Yes, the man who thinks he knows it all is here begging for guidance. Here's the deal, I'm tired of being single and I'm sick of sitting around feeling sorry for myself. I'm officially on the market. I want to find out where the hell all the good women are at. |
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I'd like to give you another perspective on this. |
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I'm sorry you're struggling, man. |
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On ne voit bien qu'avec le cœur, l'essentiel est invisible pour les yeux.
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Raised Jdeadevil
Raised and raised by Eligos
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Maybe try getting out more and build up a larger network of friends. Easily one of the best ways to meet girls is out with other people, socialising. Your friends with have other friends, I'm sure they don't all just hang out with guys right? The must have female friends? Don't take this the wrong way but from your list of 'things you like to do' there is nothing there which would enable you to get out and meet new people, so is it no wonder you have not met someone? Try putting down the control pad for your computer games and get out and have a good time?? The girls are not going to come to you if your sitting indoors doing nothing about it. It's a 2 way thing mate, you have to make an effort too. |
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I wish I had some advice that I could give you, Gh, but unfortunately I don't. I just want to tell you, though, that those women are out there and even if it's difficult to find one, the gratification you get when you do will be well worth it. |
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"If there was one thing the lucid dreaming ninja writer could not stand, it was used car salesmen."
Ok cool - So when you're out with friends and stuff, do you literally never go to a bar or anything? What do you guys normally get up to? Could you not try stuff like, go to a bowling ally or pool room or something like that? |
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I know Internet relationships can and sometimes do work. I just need to find some one who's both in my area and who takes a genuine interest in me. I'm glad it worked for you. I certainly don't consider you a loser by any means so maybe I need to re-think that option. |
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Last edited by Oneironaught; 07-17-2007 at 08:51 PM. Reason: Fuck it. Edited by request.
Oneironaught, you know I think highly of you but that last post of your's was completely unecessary, especially given that this is a public place. I would urge you to edit it. |
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Done. |
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alrighty gh you've unleashed the fucking fury! |
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MoSh: How about you stop trying to define everything, and just accept what you experience, and explore it.
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How about volunteer for something? I had a single friend who was good at fixing things, and I told her she should volunteer for Habitat for Humanity or something, instead of always just sitting around moping. She might meet some people, who probably wouldn't be losers, and if she didn't, she could have a good experience and maybe learn some useful stuff. |
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I think school/college/university - whatever you want to call it - is a great way to meet people. I mean, you see them at least once a week for several weeks, and you can take a class that interests you and share the class with people of similar interests. |
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You people are helping already. I'm "sort of" taking a vacation (still have to work my regular hours but that's besides the point) from Thursday until until the following Saturday. I think I'll be taking some of those evenings to find something to do to get out and hopefully meet people. Or at least get my feet wet again. |
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When what you're doing isn't working, try ANYTHING different. |
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On ne voit bien qu'avec le cœur, l'essentiel est invisible pour les yeux.
--Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you are about to succeed.
--Chinese Proverb
Raised Jdeadevil
Raised and raised by Eligos
Dream Journal
The Fine Print: Unless otherwise stated, the views expressed are MINE.
Aww, thanks. But I'm not really fishing for sympathy (I'll take what I get though ), just some sound advice. I've been out of the game too long and I need a kick-start. Some recent events gave me a fresh taste of what it's like to be appreciated and I remember now that I really want that in my life again. I miss having some one to talk to, share things with, adore and do things for. I was perfectly content to be lax and single for some years now (after being burned yet again with another broken engagement). But now I'm suddenly not content with my status. I saw something wonderful and I want mine. |
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Last edited by Oneironaught; 07-18-2007 at 02:34 AM.
I've always found that you find it when you're least expecting it. Like a watched pot never boils. Just do your thing, and still put yourself out there more, but try not to think about it all the time. You're still young and have plenty of time to meet that right woman. Remember that it has to be the right time for her, too. When it's meant to be, it will be. |
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Travel, then. Take some time off and get out of your tiny hometown! |
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I can't really be of much help here, never having been in an actual relationship in my life, but something someone (you know who you are) said to me in AIM the other night gave me a whole 'nother perspective on being too shy to approach girls. She asked me if I had trouble going up to a girl I didn't know and saying hi, out of the blue. Of course, I acknowledged that I did. Then she asked me why. |
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I definitely agree with the bookstore dealio. I am often venturing out to my local Barnes & Noble. It's definitely a guilty pleasure. And it's sorta one of the only places I go (besides the post office and drugstore)...and I always think that it would be really nice to meet a cool guy in the bookstore, but I certainly don't expect it. Heh. Sadly, I've given up on meeting any men. *shrugs* |
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