Tell me how to ask a girl out

[Susceptor]

Story- Theres this girl I like. She is in my French, science, and on a bus I go to a school with. The Homecoming Dance is coming up and tickets sell on thursday and Friday. I want to ask her on thursday, because she's in The Drama club...which I'm in. My Problem- I don't really know how to ask her out. Plus I'm not really the most attractive person. Any Advice?

[Man of Steel]

In the words of somebody I can't immediately recall, Just Do It.

[Michael]

Personally I'd say fuck the dance. Ask her to "hang out"... love doing that. Then trick her into having sex and never talk to her again. all girls are easy if you are smarter than them. -sorry I really have no emotions but I realize other ppl do, so: I hope you talk to her regularly... One of her friends. If not, you need to treat her as a friend first and talk to her, and make it so she thinks about you so shes not freaked when you spontaniously ask her out. then flirt a lil bit n stuff. its really so easy. Then just ask her to the dance. "hey, I was wonderin if you wanted to go to the dance with me"... whats so hard about that? Males are in charge, dont let her scare you. also, i assume your a virgin... the first times hard then it's natural so you just gotta do it.

[Original Poster]

Just remember ultimately it doesn't matter if she says no cause then you're just where you are now. That should help take the pressure off so you can act like you're doing her a favor by asking her to the dance (don't be a prick about it though, just be confident). Don't ever think of yourself as unattractive because attraction is all in how you see yourself. All you need to do is call her away outside of class to talk and just pop it out. She'll probably know what you want anyway as soon as you pull her away from her crowd.

[ninja9578]

In the words of somebody I can't immediately recall, Just Do It. Seriously? ...It's Nike. "Hey, wanna go do the dance with me?" Works for me. Like ominous said, she'll know what you want when you pull her away. The words should just be straightforward, the hard part is getting the nerve to do it.

[The Question]

Dont know how to help ya mate, really we all have our own way of doing things

[Susceptor]

Well, I asked her...and she said no. Oh well.

[Identity X]

Well, I asked her...and she said no. Oh well. Welcome to my world.

[Spartiate]

Did you use MoS's advice? That kind of stuff only works in primary school and in bars. You really have to get to know the other person well before asking them out (vice versa too), as in spend a lot of your free time with them. You become close friends first, then you work from there... Courtship is not for the impatient .

[ninja9578]

O well, from my life the odds of getting shot down are like 50/50 so everyone's been there.

[Man of Shred]

see my social dynamics thread.

[jaasum]

It's called burlap sack and plastic cuffs. Then she CANT say no. Totally kidding. You have to get to know someone first. Some people just go on a whim and then it is awkward and RETARDED. I hated high-school dances they just made absolutely no sense to me. I would always go with some girl I barely knew and then awkwardly dance with them. I would much rather go somewhere with friends and chill than "dress up" and pretend to do something you will remember. I only remember the awkward "Uhhh okay I guess we slow dance now, cool" There is no point in liking someone that doesn't like you back. I never understood the whole "I like that person so I will impress them until they like me." If they don't show an interest in you why would you want to pretend to be something they would like? Then you would just be stuck pretending to be someone you are not and then not be happy in the long run. Every relationship I have been in (besides some weird rebound one) I knew the girl pretty well and was good friends with them WAY before asking them out. It is usually the friend of the opposite sex that doesn't mind hanging out alone with you. But don't think that is 100% correctly true, but it is usually a good indicator. I have only dated those kinds of girls, but I have also just "hung out" with a lot of girls too and never took anything into a relationship. But mostly, yeah, what I said. And wear condoms or you deserve to have retarded children.

[Susceptor]

Thank you all for giving me advice.... But mostly, yeah, what I said. And wear condoms or you deserve to have retarded children. ...especially you, jaasum..... Today, my friend Ian ( If you read my dream journal, you'll know who he is) told me she didn't go out with me because, and I quote: "I was weird". .....heh. How Akward.

[LucidFlanders]

Thank you all for giving me advice.... ...especially you, jaasum..... Today, my friend Ian ( If you read my dream journal, you'll know who he is) told me she didn't go out with me because, and I quote: "I was weird". .....heh. How Akward. Her words, or his? if hers then find a better women who wont judge you when they don't even know you, or wont judge you period. People who don't know you who judge you are a waste of your time and worry about the outside. Then again what do i know? i have only asked out 2 women in my life and both said no.

[Acertine]

ya man, you are getting some great advice, well, the advice about getting to know the person, and going to dances with someone you know having just graduated highschool last year, I went to just about every dance they threw at me, and it wasn't until homecoming my senior year that I finally figured it out, I had asked yet another babe to a dance, one that I had hardly ever talked too, I just knew her for her good looks, and this one time I had picked a shallow enough girl that she turned me down, then desperate for a date to the dance, I asked a girl I had had a class with every year since I was a sophomore, not the best looking girl in the school, but alright, but the real thing that made it the best date I had my entire highchool years is that I had already knew her, so there was no awkward part of the date, no getting to know the person stage, it was a blast, and its dumb that it really took me that long time to figure this it out, it would have made junior and sophomore year much better so dont go out with those barbie doll girls that you hardly ever say one word to, at least, not at first, the main rule with girls is you have to be more comfortable around them take the girl that you talk to all the time, doesn't matter if she is the babe of the school, if you two can share a laugh already than your date will rock and i know what your thinking even though you might not admit it, but your thinking, "but i dont want to go out with her, she isn't as pretty as that cheerleader over there" well buddy, you have to walk before you can run when the pretty girls hear about all these fun dates you are taking these "other" girls on, (and trust me, every girl hears about how every other girls dates went, its like a conspiracy) they will all be like "hey, this guy sounds like he really knows how to have fun" and then you will have it made in the shade and I know your not going to believe me, your going to think that going out with the non-cheerleader and the non-babe is going to totally ruin your social life, and i promise you that there will be people that will laugh at you for taking this certain person on a date, but down the road they are going to find out that while they were laughing, you were the one having the fun, seriously and now your thinking, "well easy for him to say, he was probably a cool collected and good looking guy in highschool" and I will say "nope" I just didn't let the losers that tried to get me down about who I decided to have fun with, get to me so please take my advice, have the courage to try it, and if you do and you decide that my idea sucks, then you can always just tell everyone you meet that you must have had a temporary bout of insanity and thats why you dated that non-cheerleader

[rastasteez]

.--im a girl..so.. "its better to be loved and poor then rich and lonely" this proverb sorta works for this cause i know that i would rather be with one of my good friends who isnt as attractive and have a really fun time then be with some hot senior guy who i dont know that well and have lots of awkward moments with...sorta figured this one out a while ago. --when i was a freshman i saw this kid who was a sophmore and i was like "oh man hes so hot" but then i realized how wierd it would be so i decided just to be friends with him and now hes a senior and im a junior and we are really good friends and we talk a lot and we can have a good time, and its not as awkward as freshman yr or even last year when we would be talking and i didnt know a lot about him so we didnt have a lot in common to talk about...now we talk about lots of stuff and its good --then last yr i saw this senior guy and i was like "damnnn hes gorg" and it was all good until he invited me over to this house and we hung out for like 5 hrs and we went in the hottub and watched a movie and hung out in the backyard...now that was wayyy awkward because i did not even know him except for talking online mostly and saying "hi" during school once in a while and now that i think about it i would rather be with some guy that i love to talk to then be with absolutely gorg guy that i barely know......

[Michael]

I miss HS already. The girls were so easy... But now they are easier cuz they're like "ohh hes graduated, hes hot"... stupid girls. especially when they are drunk OMFG I just have to worry about going to jail for bangin underage girls all the time. my point: screw as many girls as you can in hs, never have a "gf"... I did this and I don't regret it one bit. Only that maybe I should have fucked a few more than I did. hahaha

[rastasteez]

I miss HS already. The girls were so easy... But now they are easier cuz they're like "ohh hes graduated, hes hot"... stupid girls.ha hahaha yea that was me like half a yr ago when i was a frosh/soph..not anymore now im just friends with them haha yeah i can still see all the soph girls doing that though, you kind of get passed that after junior yr though. at least at my school