Thread: Tell Me About Sex

i dont get why noone willl wait to have it till mariage and they are with the right person...

is it thattttttt good?

If humans have anything near an objective purpose, it's reproduction - reproduction is the only reason the species exists, and the only reason it will continue to exist after all of us have died.

We are evolved to want to reproduce, and to reproduce as successfully as possible. This is obviously a very strong urge, and some people 'succumb' to it (not that that's 'wrong' or anything).

It really just depends on your personal values.

Sure..

Originally Posted by mjtbdreams

i dont get why noone willl wait to have it till mariage and they are with the right person...

is it thattttttt good?

I can tell you this;

Sex changes a relationship. Once you have it, your relationship changes drastically - especially if it is your first time.
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Yeah. Some people just don't want to wait till marriage. Personal choice.

Reproduction is among the most basic of human needs. Even if one doesn't have sex to reproduce, that sex drive is still apart of us. It is something that is, often, dangerous, if denied.

The necessity for marriage, on the other hand, is completely arbitrary. Outside of social and/or religious constructs, marriage is, in no means, necessary. Take into consideration the divorce rate, in America. In and around 2002, it was concluded that nearly (if not more than) 50% of all marriages ended in divorce. That rate has gone down, in recent years, although the distributions of those statistics have also changed, which kind of throws the balance off. My point is that marriage, while great in many situations, isn't always all it's cracked up to be; especially nowadays. Although I believe that sex that produces a child is best left to a married couple, it can neither be assured that any couple will stay together, in the long run, nor stated as fact that all sex should be done with the purpose of creating a child.

Sex (specifically, safe sex) will always be more intimate, for lovers, but it is just as acceptable, for recreation, if you ask me.

I haven't a clue. But I've heard it's 10 times better than going off by yourself, lol.

Personally, I'm still waiting. But I'm starting to get tired of waiting! G'ah~ x.x;

as people have said, it is not necessary, but to me, I dont want to accidently make a baby with someone who I couldnt live with. I think that is what started marriage, waiting to find someone compatible so that the child has a good father and mother to take care of it in a loving enviroment. I realize this doesnt always work, but that is how I plan to treat my child.

Originally Posted by TamiDoll

I haven't a clue. But I've heard it's 10 times better than going off by yourself, lol.

Personally, I'm still waiting. But I'm starting to get tired of waiting! G'ah~ x.x;

Last night you said you're 20..

And your hot.

What went wrong there?!











On a lighter note, to the OP:

Sex is tight. Literally.

Originally Posted by mjtbdreams

i dont get why noone willl wait to have it till mariage and they are with the right person...

is it thattttttt good?

Yes, and marriage is thatttttt bad.

Originally Posted by O'nus

I can tell you this;

Sex changes a relationship. Once you have it, your relationship changes drastically - especially if it is your first time.
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Really? None of my relationships have changed after sex. I don't dive right into sex with someone the moment I meet them, but I wouldn't say any of them really changed afterwards...

Originally Posted by Oneironaut

The necessity for marriage, on the other hand, is completely arbitrary. Outside of social and/or religious constructs, marriage is, in no means, necessary. Take into consideration the divorce rate, in America. In and around 2002, it was concluded that nearly (if not more than) 50% of all marriages ended in divorce. That rate has gone down, in recent years, although the distributions of those statistics have also changed, which kind of throws the balance off. My point is that marriage, while great in many situations, isn't always all it's cracked up to be; especially nowadays. Although I believe that sex that produces a child is best left to a married couple, it can neither be assured that any couple will stay together, in the long run, nor stated as fact that all sex should be done with the purpose of creating a child.

Sex (specifically, safe sex) will always be more intimate, for lovers, but it is just as acceptable, for recreation, if you ask me.

I 100% agree with you! Marriage is nowadays hard to take as a solid binding commitment to each other - the divorce rate is at 50% there or there about's, well it is in the UK. And you might think, well I am different, but is the person you are with different.

I don't see what all this waiting till I am married approach is for anyway. I mean if you love someone, then why not sleep with them, you kiss them, and have intimate moments with them, sex is just another intimate moment? Why wait till you have a piece of paper to say you are going to be married before having sex? What if you get divorced, do you wait again, or just have sex with anyone since you have already broken the seal?

Maybe I am a little cynical, but coming from a broken family, and seeing how so many marriages fail, the values associated with marriage depreciate with this, thus making waiting for sex till marriage a desultory thing to do.

Just my thoughts.

p.s yes it is that good

I don't think there is anything wrong with having sex before marriage, as long as you honestly love the person you're having sex with and you see yourself with him/her for the long run.
I'm waiting till marriage.

Waiting till marriage is pointless because marriage is pointless.

...I wonder if you get this.

Originally Posted by Jeff777

...I wonder if you get this.

I feel... so... stupid....

I had to look at that for like 15 minutes to get it.

-patience

I'm sexually frustrated, took me 0.1 seconds.

ah, a tad more on track now.

I agree about marriage being more of a written statement of something you already know, " you two love each other and, for now at least, want to spend the rest of your life's together". So unless it is strict taboo and you will be punished for having sex outside marriage( stoned to death for example, is that only the women though in such cultures?), which is simply barbaric, there is no reason not to.

Jeff, that movie poster thing is hillarious.
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I know!